A Single Serving Podcast publishes ONLY on Patreon every Monday morning, but once a year I like to gift subscribers who have found me throughout the year with one Patreon-only episode as a way to show you what you can expect from the podcast. I hope you enjoy one of my absolute favorite 2022 episodes, The Vilification Of Single Women. This episode does not hold back, it does not mince words, and it is DONE with the BS narrative that single women are a threat to married women's relationships. NOPE! We are done being vilified, and we are done moving through the world on eggshells so that we don't upset a married. It's an intense one and you know what—it should be. Because single people are not villains, and partnered people are not superior. Period. Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanisilverShani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link is affiliate link. Support the show

The Vilification Of Single Women - Happy Holidays From Shani Silver

This is a mid-year reminder that A Single Serving Podcast publishes EVERY MONDAY MORNING on Patreon and only on Patreon. Your $5 per month membership gets you every single podcast episode AND access to the podcast's private Facebook Group. If you're looking for more content and community that treats singlehood with the respect and validity it deserves, as opposed to more and more baseless, future-predicting dating advice, join us. Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanisilver Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link is affiliate link. Support the show

MIDSUMMER

Popping into the public forum today for a super-quick podcast episode and to remind you, especially those of you who are new followers from TikTok (hi!) that this podcast publishes NEW EPISODES EVERY WEEK ON PATREON and only on Patreon! If you're looking for help shedding the shame-filled singlehood narratives we've all been fed our entire lives, my podcast and its community can help. New episodes publish every Monday morning, and your $5/month Patreon membership comes with access to the only Facebook community that I manage. Check out more details via the link below! Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3jN4pWnShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link is affiliate link. Podcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115 *Book link is affiliate link Support the show

The New Girl

A Single Serving Podcast is now exclusively on Patreon! As of January 2022, new episodes will publish every Monday morning only on Shani Silver's Patreon at the $5 per month tier. This tier also comes with access to the Patrons-only Facebook group for this podcast. You are welcome to listen to the back catalog on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, etc, and if you'd like new episodes I hope you'll join our Patreon community where we're reframing the negative, lack-filled narratives of singlehood and replacing them with new ways of thinking about and experiencing single life that feel MUCH BETTER. See you there!  https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link is affiliate link. Support the show

See You On Patreon!

What is a "bare minimum" mindset, and how is it harmful to singles? This solo episode explores a deep dive into where the bare minimum comes from, how to move past it, and why we're so vulnerable to it. You'll also hear advice on how to reframe your comparison thoughts around the holiday season. ANNOUNCEMENT: This is the last episode of A Single Serving Podcast that will publish for free on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc. From now on, listen to a new episode of A Single Serving Podcast every Monday morning over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverPodcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115Transcript of podcast via OtterAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersSupport the show

Breaking Up With The Bare Minimum

This one's different, friends! This month's public episode of A Single Serving podcast is actually not for my audience, it's for friends and family members who know and love a member of my audience. This episode is designed to be shared with someone you love to help them reframe singlehood for themselves in the same way that we've reframed it for ourselves, so that maybe this year at the holidays no one asks us "how are you still single?" Hey, we can try! If you're someone who loves a single person, listen to this episode if you'd like to be kinder to and more respectful of them moving forward. This episode is presented with love and in the hopes that we all have a very happy holiday season together.  This podcast publishes publicly and for free once a month. If you'd like to hear a new episode of this podcast every week, join my Patreon! Your membership also comes with access to the private, Patrons-only Facebook group, and instant access to EVERY episode I've ever published.  Join here!“Single People Shouldn’t Have Costco Memberships”https://shanisilver.medium.com/single-people-shouldnt-have-costco-memberships-d9f046f7b9e2Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverPodcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115Transcript of podcast via OtterAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersSupport the show

A Wedding Ring Is Not A Diploma

In this solo episode, your host Shani Silver becomes a PUBLISHED AUTHOR! This bonus episode is being released in celebration of A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match—light one. The book publishes TODAY and is available via the link below. This episode features a deep dive into "waiting" or the mindset singles can often have regarding our lives not being "real" until we have a partner. After that, you'll hear a FULL READING of the book's Introduction!  As always, if you'd like to hear a new episode of this podcast every week, join my Patreon! Buy Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One.Shani's websiteShani on InstagramPodcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115Podcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readers*Book link is affiliate link.  Support the show

Bonus Episode: IT'S BOOK DAY

Tonya Carter is a Relationship Transformation Coach joining the podcast to discuss life post-divorce and post-relationship. We explore authenticity, moving through our stories as opposed to becoming stuck inside them, and how transactional ideas of love aren't serving us in singlehood or in relationships. This episode also begins with a listener-inspired deep dive into "you're too picky," both how to respond to it and how to process and reframe it in our own minds. I loved this conversation with Tonya and I can't wait to have her back as a guest again. Tonya Carter's WebsiteTonya Carter on Instagram Order Tonya's book, Divorce Your StoryMy first book, A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one. publishes 10/26/21.Join my Patreon for access to a FULL READING of the book's introduction in an episode published September 6th, 2021 titled Shani's (Extremely) Special Announcement. You'll also have access to every podcast episode I've ever published, NEW episodes of this podcast every week, and access to the private Facebook group for Patrons only. Shani's websiteShani on InstagramPodcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115Podcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

Transactional Love

Bonus Episode!! In this very special episode recorded while evacuated from an actual hurricane, I am thrilled to share the news that I've been keeping to myself for months now. I WROTE A BOOK!A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one. Publishing THIS OCTOBER, A Single Revolution is all the support I've ever wanted to give the single community. It challenges every negative, false narrative about singlehood and replaces them with a complete reframing of how we're allowed and able to view and experience being single. It is not a book about dating. It is a book about living. Visit shanisilver.com to join my email list and be first to know when it goes on sale! Join my Patreon for access to a FULL READING of the book's introduction in an episode published September 6th, 2021 titled Shani's (Extremely) Special Announcement. You'll also have access to every podcast episode I've ever published, new episodes of the podcast every week, and access to the private Facebook group for Patrons only. For $5 per month, that's a steal.  Single women deserve a book that doesn’t assume we’re a negative. A Single Revolution doesn’t assume you’re unfinished, flawed, or doing something wrong in the dating space just because you’re single. If it makes any assumption, the book assumes you’re going to feel a LOT better by the time you’re done reading it. Shani's websiteShani on InstagramPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

The Announcement Episode: I Did It

It’s a wild one! Things that happened in this episode featuring Lane Moore: a phone call from my movers saying they were FINALLY arriving later that day after being a month late, a dog cameo, and a very chatty UPS delivery man, and after all that we get into some good shit! Comedian, Creator of Tinder Live and author of How To Be Alone Lane Moore is one of my most-requested guests EVER, and I’m so thrilled she took time out of her tour schedule to chat with us about singlehood, online dating, attachment styles, and the things we have to learn from each other. Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts or below.Lane’s website & tour infoLane’s InstagramLane’s TwitterLane's Book, How To Be AloneAttachedShani’s Podcast P.O Box!3436 Magazine Street #8110New Orleans, LA 70115Shani's websiteShani on InstagramThis podcast publishes once a month on Apple Podcasts and other free-access platforms, and once a week on Patreon! Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all weekly podcast episodes and instant access to all existing Patreon-only episodes. You'll also get access to the private podcast Facebook group! Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via Otter*Book links are affiliate linksSupport the show

Poisoned Gruel

In this very special episode of A Single Serving Podcast, I am joined by podcast listener Christine Po, a Dermatology Physician Assistant based in Atlanta, Georgia. Christine reached out as a listener and her email was one I wished I could have shared with you all—so I made it a podcast episode instead. This is for anyone who has ever felt entirely alone in never having been in a relationship before, anyone who's ever experienced racism in dating, and anyone who has ever felt like there was just simply something wrong with you for being single. The episode also begins with my own deep dive and reframe into expectations around our least favorite question: "How's dating going?"Connect with Christine on InstagramJune Patreon Podcast EpisodesJesus Was Single with Kat HarrisFilter Of Fabulosity with Shani SilverEmpathy & Actual Answers with Jennifer Michelle Mason Unique Is Normal with Laura Behnke (mentioned in this week's episode) Nothing Personal by Nancy Jo SalesShe I Dare Not Name by Donna Ward Panel discussion with Donna Ward, Jody Day, and Civilla Morgan Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all weekly podcast episodes and instant access to all existing Patreon-only episodes!Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterBook links are affiliate links.Support the show

Don't F*ck Up

Nancy Jo Sales is a New York Times bestselling author and award winning journalist whose work you might know from The Bling Ring, American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers, or her documentary filme Swiped. Her newest book, Nothing Personal: My Secret Life in the Dating App Inferno addresses a topic very close to this community: Big Dating and the corporate takeover of our search for love. It’s not just you—maybe the gamification of dating is actually that bad. This episode hits home, hard. CW: This podcast episode includes a brief discussion of rape and sexual assault at the very beginning of the interview. Nancy Jo Sales’ websiteNancy Jo Sales’ TwitterNothing Personal: My Secret Life in the Dating App InfernoBooks mentioned in the episode:Brotopia, by Emily ChangMen Who Hate Women by Laura BatesJoin the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all weekly podcast episodes in 2021. May Patreon EpisodesWords, Wine, & Walks, featuring Sara K Runnels $100 Cashmere Onesie, featuring Melanie NotkinRaw,  featuring your host, Shani Silver & 3 Subtle Ways Single Women Are BulliedAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

The Corporate Takeover Of Dating

Alex Kruger is a writer who recently published an essay with The New York Times’ Modern Love column.  What’s the “right” approach to dating? An organized and thoughtful effort, or a hands-off attitude that lets what will be, be? Or…are both Alex and Shani 100% right? This episode is FULL of explorations into modern singlehood, and all the little idiosyncrasies and anxieties that come with it. A must listen for anyone who feels like dating is happening to them, rather than the other way around, as well as anyone who feels a little out of control. Modern Love: My Ridiculous Dating System by Alex KrugerAlex Kruger on Substack What’s Right With You? podcast episode featuring Sara Eckel April Patreon Episodes: Representation Changes Attitudes with Rowan EllisUnique Is Normal with Laura BehnkeSexuality Is An Energy with August McLaughlin (August’s book, Girl Boner)Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all weekly podcast episodes in 2021. Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

Spreadsheets & Serendipity

It's the 2nd Anniversary of A Single Serving Podcast! We've come a long way since your host was too scared to push the "record" button. In this solo episode, host Shani Silver digs into some very fundamental things about not being miserable anymore. It's possible! If you've seen the empowered singlehood memes and Instagram quotes but really can't get a handle on how the hell to stop hating being single already, this is the episode for you. Bonus: You can actually stop hating singlehood AND still be open to a relationship at the same time! This episode will teach you how, and it's easier than you think. THANK YOU for two incredible years of this podcast, there's LOTS more to come!  Shani's writing she references in the episode: You Never Have To Settle When Single Isn't Bad"Take A Break" Isn't Enough Mental Health Support For Online DatersMarch Patreon Podcast Episodes:Keturah Kendrick takes us through the benefits of taking the life path that's right for YOU, not the path everyone tells you or expects you to take. Judith Duportail's VERY popular episode digs into the bullshit of dating with a raw honesty rarely seen! Alexandra Collier is a single mom by choice to an 18 month old little boy, she takes us through her decision-making process in this essential episode for anyone considering solo parenthood. Chloe, host of the Stripper Stories podcast chats about all things sex work + singlehood. shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

Never Marry Your Rock Bottom

Damona Hoffman has been a dating coach for over 15 years. Is this a podcast about dating? Nope. But it is a podcast about real discussions that are relevant to singles, and it's a genuinely joy to have Damona's wisdom on the podcast this week. We get into our own experiences in dating as well as explore some of the common misconceptions that surround the singlehood space. We'll also get into the disruptions to singlehood and dating that have resulted from the rapid, continuous evolution of technology. This episode also begins with your host Shani Silver answering a Patron question that's vital to understand as we move toward more positive singlehood mindsets, and Shani welcomes back her first guest ever, Jessie Jolles, for a brief chat on her newly launched TV pilot, Forgotten Animals. It's a long one, but a GREAT one. Thank you for listening. A Single Serving Podcast publishes once a month to free-access platforms like Apple Podcasts and Spotify, but new episodes are released every week on Patreon. Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to hear new episodes every Monday. Damona Hoffman's WebsiteDamona Hoffman's Podcast, Dates & MatesDamona on InstagramLeslie Kaz on A Single Serving Podcast, episode: What The F*ck Am I DOINGAndres Romero on A Single Serving Podcast, episode: Someone Gets Us  Shani Silver's solo episode: She Met Him In Collegeshanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

What Do You Want & Why Do You Want It

So much of society’s opinion of singlehood (and our own thoughts on singlehood) comes from the messages we receive about it. Dr. Jessica Moorman is an Assistant Professor of Communication at Wayne State University studying media and the messages communicated to singles, specifically single Black women. Our discussion covers a range of messages single women receive, and the effects they can have on the single community, as well as personal strategies to employ once we’re aware of the messages we’re taking in about our single status. Dr. Moorman’s research and insight are both fascinating, both new and longtime listeners of this podcast will enjoy what she has to share very much. Dr. Moorman’s websiteDr. Moorman on InstagramDr. Moorman on TwitterTherapy For Black Girls: Reimagining Single LifeTherapy For Black Girls Single Life During The Pandemi***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

Stop Watching The Bachelor

Welcome to A Single Serving Podcast! Starting in 2021, this podcast publishes once a month to all free access platforms like Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc., and all other weekly episodes publish every Monday morning via Patreon, at the $5 per month tier. With your Patreon membership you'll get full access to every episode of this podcast in 2021 and beyond, and you'll also get access to the new Patrons-only Facebook group for this podcast, as well as over a year's worth of solo bonus episodes that have already been published. Join the Patreon and get access to all future episodes of A Single Serving Podcast here. Support the show

Looking For This Week's Episode?

What is social infertility? This week's guest Jody Day, founder of Gateway Women, takes us through the realities of being childless or child-free not by choice, in a warm and welcoming discussion that's a beautiful way to kick of 2021. If you are single and desire parenthood in addition to partnership, it can feel like a lot, especially when the questions from other people come in. Jody offers some brilliant strategies and a lot of compassionate perspective on being childless—and all of those things are so welcome in this community. Gateway WomenWorld Childress WeekFull Stop Podcast Attached (book mentioned in the episode) ***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via Otter*Some links above are affiliate links. Support the show

The Beyonce Of Childlessness

In this solo episode of A Single Serving Podcast, your host Shani Silver will explore the difficult (and triumphant!) parts of being single at this time of year, right as we prepare to celebrate New Year's Eve and all the resolutions and intentions that come along with it. This episode includes LOTS of crowd-sourced answers and ideas from Patreon Patrons. If you find the holidays tough to experience as a single person, or would like to start 2021 off on a positive, pressure-free note, this is a great listen for you. Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all podcast episodes in 2021! ***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

Whatever The F*ck We Want

It's a podcast within a podcast! The episode you're abut to hear is actually an episode of Thriving Solo by Jennifer Fields, who was kind enough to invite me (your host, Shani Silver, hi) on as a guest! In this episode we get into so, SO many tired and nonsensical narratives about single life that are ripe for reframing. This is a great listen and reminder as we celebrate the holiday season, and prepare for a new year ahead. Please check out lots more from Jennifer Fields and Thriving Solo here!   Jennifer's Instagram***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show

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