Your attention is not just your focus, but a force with which to steer your life, thoughts, emotions, and personal change.

#78 Your Attention is a Force

I got listened to and understood in a way that I felt important and valued. What I didn't know was that this wasn't an accident. The person listening to me was doing some very conscious and skillful things in their listening to help me have that experience.

#77 Relationship Connection the Secret Ingredient

we have these strategies of giving a good impression and hiding the stuff we fear they will judge us for. And so our relationship is made "comfortable" in that space of keeping up a false impression and hiding our negative feelings and thoughts. However, it's not comfortable long-term living in these masks and false versions of our self. Certainly not with our intimate partner. We can't keep the facade on all the time. It's exhausting. It's going to break down.

#76 Relationship Connection is Possible

I gathered all sorts of habits and false beliefs in my childhood that later led to disconnection, disappointment, frustration, and heartbreak in a relationship. 

One example was from the fairy tales and movies growing up. They painted a picture of "happily ever after" into my brain. Once you meet the right person, it goes seamlessly to "happily" ever after." But, unfortunately, those stories planted a false paradigm that set me up for disappointment later. 

I got into this "inner work" because I was struggling and unhappy in my relationships. I think a lot of people do. Even if their relationships are "good," they may not feel good in them. Sometimes a "great relationship" brings up our inner fears, insecurities, jealousy, and other sabotaging emotions and behaviors.

#75 Relationship Connection – The Struggle

Daniel's journey from misery to happiness took a lot of work. There were many ingredients essential to making his transformation happen and he shares it here in this interview with him. 

From Misery to Happiness

The narrative story in our mind is what produces those negative thoughts, self-judgments, and emotions. It arises from the core beliefs we acquired earlier in life, and that can be re-programmed with awareness. 

Why am I Unhappy

The mind is dreaming all the time. It is dreaming when you are awake, and when you are asleep. The consciousness process involves waking up from these dreams that run through your head. Most often they appear as narrative stories. What will change your life is when you take charge of the dreams in your mind during the day instead of allowing them to dream you.

#72 Conscious Dreaming

I've been doing a digital detox. I gave up news and social media for lent. I wanted to pull my attention out of the habitual cycle of opinions, fears, needing to be informed, emotions, and addictive social media scrolls. I wanted to clean up and clear space in my mind.  In the process, I had this dream last week. It represents part of the Deam of Maya, or illusions we live in. If you want to be happy and fulfilled, you will need to move your attention out of such stories.

#71 The Dream of Maya

Pauline Victoria was born without arms or legs, Despite this physical challenge, she has done what many would think impossible. I wanted to know how she did things like drive, swim, and scuba dive. She said it was how she played the mental game to overcome her physical challenges. In this interview, I got to explore how Pauline masters her mental game. The mental game includes desire, faith, presence, surrender, and calming your nervous system with control over your attention.

#70 Mastering the Mental Game

Figuring out the truth isn't straightforward.  Consider this; the mind is the mechanism that we use to discern the truth. However, this is the same mind that generates stories, false narratives, daydreams, and fictional realities in our heads.  These two uses of the mind are contradictory. It's no wonder people are having difficulty seeing the difference between truth and a made-up story. 

#69 Self Awareness – Why do people believe crazy lies, conspiracy theories, and illusions?

The voices in your head are normal.  They are the patterns of thoughts arising from unconscious beliefs. They can be funny, frightening, random or chaotic, and possibly cause deep suffering.

#68 Voices in your Head

Eva Beronius and Gary van Warmerdam explore moving from identifying with the mind to realizing our Self as Consciousness.

#67 Consciousness and moving Beyond the Mind

Trauma is often the cause of anxiety, depression, ADHD, anger, harsh self judgment, suicidal thoughts, and other mood disorders.  It is much more common than you think. You don't just get PTSD from wartime combat.  Your brain and nervous system can be altered from sexual assault, abuse, bullying, emotionally abusive parents, even if they never hit you, surgery, or a car accident.

#66 Trauma symptoms and treatments

To change a belief sometimes it helps to understand where and how it came to be. When you understand why and how you started to believe your thoughts about being wrong, bad, unlovable, or broken, you have new perspective on those ideas. You can understand their time and place from who you are today, instead of who you were when those beliefs may have helped. You can also see why it is not true today, or not true before that moment you began believing in your false ego identity as who you were.

#65 Beliefs I’m Broken and Unlovable that Produce Shame

My interview with Anna and her journey out of trauma reactions using the skills and perspectives she learned in the Self Mastery practices.  Combining them with EMDR treatments and other modalities to go from anxiety, depression, anger and suicidal thoughts, to Living Happy.

#63 Overcoming Trauma and Living Happy

Where do you start making changes when you are overwhelmed with emotions? Understanding the deep sources of emotions help us move into compassion, and decrease the impact of the Inner Judge.  Beginning steps include acknowledging where you are, accepting it, and then finding one small change to get you started.

#62 Overwhelmed with Emotions – Why am I so Angry?

There is a fear virus going through people's minds and emotions at the same time there is a biological Corona virus infecting people's physical bodies. The spread of fear is a lot faster and more widespread.  There are things you can do to protect yourself, and improve your emotional state.

#61-Fear Virus – Live Self Mastery Get Together

Emotional wounds show up as our "baggage" in relationships. They are our unhealed emotions and beliefs from past experiences and affect our current relationships. Physical wounds can be seen but emotional wounds are invisible. They are experienced as emotional reactions, negative thoughts, and sabotaging behaviors. Understand them and you will be more compassionate to yourself and others.

#60 Emotional Wounds and Relationship Baggage

Interview with Eva, a Self Mastery Course subscriber who worked her way out of panic attacks, anxiety, depression, and career burnout to build a completely different life. Letting go of fears and eventually feeling joy and love was a surprise change, until it became the new normal.

#59 Self Mastery Interview with Eva

This podcast will guide you through a breathing practice using specific techniques to relax your nervous system and brain. There are reasons that breathing techniques can help you relax. Breathing. When done properly it bypasses your intellect and directs your nervous system to switch off the tension and  hyper-vigilance. This is something that you can’t do by thinking better thoughts or trying to be positive.

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