Your going to be okay We all go through these days in our lives, some more than others. But we go through these days where we feel everything is falling apart. You feel like life is after you and there is no way of winning. If this sounds familiar first off I want you to know you’re not alone. I went through them a lot actually. Not as much as before but it’s only because of certain things I implemented in to my life to help me over come these sucky ass days. First off one of the most important things to tell yourself is your okay, you’ve been through this before in some way shape or form. Unless you’re in danger or hurt physically, you’re going to be okay. 2nd thing is you’re not crazy for all these thoughts going through your head, your no less of a person for having a lot going on that doesn’t seem to add up in your life at the moment. Remind yourself repeatedly of how strong you really are, although you may not feel that way, you have been through hurdles in life and have passed them with flying colors. This hurdle is a little more tough, but you will get through it. Think of this as another challenge in life. You were out here to go through exactly what your going through, and the purpose is to overcome and come out stronger on the other end. Be brave and talk to someone, I know we think keeping this bottled up is the most comfortable option. Since it doesn’t open up the doors of leaving you vulnerable or weak. But as I have mentioned before. Talking to someone could be one of the most therapeutic things you could ever do for yourself. Don’t let your emotions stop you from opening up to people. I know it did for me for years. I hated the thought of someone seeing me cry. So instead I bottled my emotions and let myself soak in this sorrow and live in total darkness. Don’t do that, talk to someone and get these things off your mind and chest. A lot of the time just talking to someone can help you so much, but as a bonus some friends may have something that can help you through it, or will offer themselves to you as a shoulder whenever you feel this way. Do your best to find a solution, with out stressing yourself out. I know it’s hard and I know it’s very stressful. But you can overcome this and you will. Don’t let this become a weight over you forever. Find a way to get this out and speak to someone and try our best to listen for any tips they may have to help you get back on your feet, try your best to knee yourself occupied, and do your best to remind yourself that you will be okay. You will over come this. There is nothing wrong with you. It’s just life doing what life does. Breathe and relax you’re going to be just fine. If you feel you can’t find someone to speak to try reaching out to a specialist. The point to find someone to speak to help you vent and get this out.

S01E78- Your going to be OKAY

Think before you make your next move. Have you ever come to a fork in the road in your journey? Either for fitness or personal growth, or just life in general ? I know I’ve been there. I’ve played on both sides of the table. Meaning I’ve made good choices and bad choices unknowingly. You will learn something from either or, sometimes it’s hard to tell whether that choice you made that day was good one or bad one sometimes. One thing I want to recommend is to really look at this choice from different angles. Look at the pros and the cons. Ask yourself how will making this choice affect you? Try to think beyond you if possible. Like if you had a family to look after. How would this choice affect them? Choices will always be presented to us in several forms so it’s hard sometimes to really see which choice you should really look at with this series of questions. I think if you have to think about it for more than a few days this is something you need to put in to a series of questions. Make choices with the best intentions for yourself, your growth, and your family. Making choices a bit easier when you ask yourself or someone for more clarity. The reason I say ask your self is because you won’t always have someone there to help answer them for you. So it’s up to you sometimes to make those executive decisions. Last but not least asking people is always a tool that can be used in times of not knowing how to decide. Sometimes this can get tricky. Because this is a big decision for you. So I recommend just asking the right people. Ask someone who you feel won’t point you in the wrong place. I hate to be a judgmental person but this is your life we are talking about. So I recommend asking someone you trust fully but also look at their life choices. Does this person motivate you? Do they help you grow? Are they making moves you would like to make some day?  If so that may be a good place to start. Either way life is all about making decisions, make sure to trust your heart and do your best to make the right choice for yourself.

S01E77- Think before your next move

click here to follow us on Instagram click here to follow our NEW facebook   Time is moving fast. Enjoy it. I use to tell myself a lot that I will get to my goals tomorrow, then when tomorrow came I would push it to the weekend. Then eventually it got easy to push things away. Because when your younger, you forget about time. As a matter fact time is never really thought about during our early years as an adult. I was talking to my daughter the other day. She was so excited to tell me all about her report card and how happy she was to have it go from a C- to a B+. Her other grades were As and Bs she said that if she kept this up she will be “graduating” elementary school to move to middle school. And that’s when life hit me for the first time in a while. It said to me, hey your daughter will be in middle school next year. The same school I went to middle school at. It was such an eye opener. One day I’ll be getting a call that says she will be graduating high school! Just blew my mind, but also reminded me that time is moving so quickly, especially when you keep yourself busy. It made me ask myself “am I really making the best of the time that’s passing me by?” during my early years it was spent on dumb things but today I feel I am right where I am suppose to be. So I ask you my friends. Are you doing what’s best for yourself in the time that’s passing you so quickly? Are you where you want to be ? If not have you started implanting things that will get you to where you want to go? At the end of our cycle of life we will be in a bed, hopefully and the last thing that will come to your mind is ... Have I used the time I had in this world wisely? If your thinking about helping at a community center .. do it.. If your planning to lose 20 pounds .. do it If your planning to get a promotion at work do it! If you’ve been planning a family vacation for years and still haven’t gone.. just go! The more you push away the things you want in life the less likely they will happen, and I say that because tomorrow is not guaranteed. We are not promised the things we want in life, but we are guaranteed an ending to life. Get the most out of your life and live it the happiest you can. Be humble, and spread the joy.

S01E76- Time is moving FAST, Enjoy it!

Click here to follow us on Instagram Click here to follow us on Facebook Click here to view our website/Show Notes   Be a badass not an ass People love to shine regardless of what they tell you. I can be up front and say ya I love the feeling. It’s nice to be noticed for things you do. But the reason I wanted to talk about this was because there is such thing as being an ass when you’re trying to be a badass. Now by bad ass I mean totally killing it at your goals or just in life. This doesn’t have to be goal driven. I’ve seen so many people let their position in life change them to a whole new other person. Does it happen to us all? Yea I’m gonna say I believe it does. I think early in my career and in life when I started getting praise and awesome recognition I started to get cocky. And eventually it looks bad if you take it too far. Avoiding these things is what separates a great leader/person over a person with a title. Do your best to remember where it you’re come from. Try to remember when you were at the bottom. Most importantly remember things can happen in the blink of an eye. Nothing in life is promised or guaranteed other than the fact that one day we will all pass away. So don’t be the ass. Be the badass, don’t let things get to your head. Know your place and show people what a good person is really like. Don’t show them something they already see on tv or in music which is a bunch of people letting fame change who they were originally.

S01E75- Be a Badass, Not an Ass

CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM CLICK HERE TO VISIT OUR SITE   Feeling Stuck   Have you ever felt so stuck in life or in a situation that you don’t know what to do?   When I say stuck i mean stuck because of a step you missed that resulted in you losing interest in what your doing. I’ve been in this situation several times in the past. Feeling stuck will make you feel like you aren’t doing enough or they will make you feel totally lost.  The goal is to find out exactly why you feel stuck. The more you narrow it down the easier it is to start working on a way out of being stuck.  First of you need to take full ownership of why your stuck, it’s okay we all make mistakes, and we all make wrong turns in our path. We aren’t perfect, and that’s okay! you figure out why your stuck ask yourself a few questions. One is why you got there in the first place. Try to retrace your steps as far as you can to really see where it is you took the wrong turn. Start working on a strategy on how to turn this all around. Regardless of asking for help/guidance or researching on your own. Make sure you are asking your self specific questions so that you have specific answers on getting your engine started back up again. Once you figure out some ways on how to get out of where your at, try to narrow them down or prioritize them. Last but now least start working on getting yourself back up and running. Take notes as to what worked and also take notes as to what lead you down this path. So you know what to avoid in the future.    Life is a learning process, we don’t always have the answers. But that doesn’t mean we will always be stuck we’re we are at. We learn to figure things out by asking ourself a the right questions, making specific goals and staying consistent. Trial and error becomes apart of life as you grow. The more you work on the areas you get stuck on the better you become. The trick is to never give up and always push for a better you.

S01E74- Feeling Stuck

THIS WAS A POPULAR EPISODE WE WOULD LIKE TO SHARE ONE MORE TIME FOR OUR NEW LISTENERS :)    INTRO Today, we’re talking about challenges. What are challenges, how they differ from excuses, and how you can push past your limits. Before we get started, make sure to subscribe to our podcast… etc   THE CHALLENGE Many of us get stuck at this fork in the road. We have the option to take the safe road and ignore the challenge and move on with something else in life or we see this challenging side and work on that road knowing it’s going to be bumpy but also realizing the road at the end is very rewarding.   When you’re stuck at this fork ask yourself two questions — “Do I want to play it safe and ignore growth” or “Do I want to acknowledge that with growth come bumps in the road but I accept them?”    BUMPY ROAD = SOLUTION Although the bumpy road will be much more difficult, it’s the most important step to take.   Challenges in life come to us for one reason only. Either to make you stronger or to stop your progress completely. We don’t get the things we want in life by staying the same person and staying in the same situation that we were in when we started.   From personal experience, I can say that although my achievements in life have been difficult and exhausting, they have been very rewarding and humbling.    A challenge I struggled a lot with is going to the gym. First off it’s in the morning — I am not a morning person. I will sleep in as long as I can before I will be late. Once I’m up and ready, I could be doing something that doesn’t exhaust me. But I’ve come to accept that what I want out of the gym takes work and dedication. What I get in return for that work and dedication comes in many forms. I have much more energy, I live a healthier life, and I feel good about completing something I am working hard for.   CHALLENGE VERSUS EXCUSE In order for our challenges to make us stronger and see that reward at the end of the road, we need to take a detailed view of our excuses. A lot of the time what seems like a challenge is actually an EXCUSE made my our insecurities, fears, and believed limitations. If you’re saying your kids are preventing you from going to the gym, that’s not a challenge. It’s an excuse. If you’re saying your job doesn’t give you time to work on your business, that’s an excuse.    The challenge is acknowledging the road block, finding a solution, and making it a daily habit. If you want to work out but you don’t have a sitter for your kids, then challenge yourself to workout from home. Or challenge yourself to find a sitter and go to the gym. If your job is taking a lot of your personal time, preventing you from working your own business, then challenge yourself to create work/life balance. Or challenge yourself to wake up an hour earlier to take baby steps in your business.   

S01E73 - Challenges

CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW ON FACEBOOK CLICK HERE TO VISIT OUT SITE   Just checking in   Today I wanted to simply check up on our listeners.   How do you feel you are doing as far as life growth goes. Whether it be your career? Or your gym goals ? Do you feel you have made a moves in the right direction? If not, ask your self why? Try to get a special answer as to why..And try to come up with a resolution as to what can you do to make things better and get your self moving towards completing your goals.   Asking yourself what the  specifics are can really help because your giving yourself the details you need to help achieve your goals or to really zoom in on the issue that’s preventing you from achieving your goals.   If your feeling some kind of way where your emotions are bothering your and it’s making it bard to concentrate on the reality’s if life, I would recommend speaking to someone in person and try to choose someone you think will give you honestly and helpful feedback. If you feel you don’t know someone try to reach out to a professional to speak to. There is no shame in any of that. It doesn’t make you weak. It should empower you because of the decision your making to seek the answers you need to better your life.   Last But not least my friends, know that any kind of progress does take time. Have some patience. As the famous saying goes “ Rome was not built in a day” so give yourself some slack even if things aren’t happening right away. Know you will get there as long as you put in the work. Stay consistent and never give up.  

S01E72- Are you on track?

Change for a better future.   A lot of people for some reason think I was always this motivating kinda guy. To be honest I was not always this way. I actually was raised in a different type of world we’re  living a life of an entrepreneur wasn’t really a thing   I’m not going to go in to the details but I will tell you I didn’t always see a way out. I was brought up all through school labeled as the funny guy, or class clown. Which wasn’t bad, at least that’s what I thought.   Slowly I started to realize I wasn’t very smart. I actually didn’t know a lot in middle school. I had a lot of trouble with math and paying attention in school. It’s not till graduation day we’re I realized I wasted a lot of time and got no where. Because I wasn’t on stage with my friends.   I didn’t graduate, and I’m not telling you guys this because I want you to feel bad for me.   I’m telling you guys this because I want don’t want you to waste your time trying to be the funny guy, or the just the pretty girl. I want you guys to really think about your life and I want you to think about a few things 1. Ask yourself where you’ll be in the next 3 years if you changed nothing.. 2nd thing is are you hanging out with people who think they have a successful future? If you think you changing nothing won’t get you no where in the next three years you might want to reconsider your actions.   Now I got to where I am because I had to work 3 times as hard to get something that doesn’t have as much meaning as a diploma. I got a GED.  Nothing wrong with that but it doesn’t look as tasteful to employers. It’s hard to say but it’s the truth.   It’s never too late to change. And I wish I could have changed sooner but changing was the best thing that happened to me because I get to live a happier life. Was it easy? No , but it was worth it. So if I could influence you to change anything it would be your actions if they aren’t taking you to a more positive lifestyle. I ended up getting my degree and taking several courses in development for my career and education. I couldn’t imagine not doing these things and having to parent my kids. Getting them through school would oAf been a nightmare if I didn’t educate myself.   I now focus on teaching people through the things I’ve been through because I wouldn’t want anyone to have to grow up like I did. Life can be fun, but don’t waste it all on things that won’t get you anywhere.

S01E71- Changing for a better future

CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM  click here to follow us on Facebook click here to visit out Home Page   1. Separate Fact from Fiction The first step in learning to focus on the positive requires knowing how to stop negative self-talk in its tracks. The more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. Most of our negative thoughts are just that — thoughts, not facts. 2. Identify a Positive Once you snap yourself out of self-defeating, negative thoughts, it’s time to help your brain learn what you want it to focus on — the positive. This will come naturally after some practice, but first you have to give your wandering brain a little help by consciously selecting something positive to think about. Any positive thought will do to refocus your brain’s attention. When things are going well, and your mood is good, this is relatively easy. When things are going poorly, and your mind is flooded with negative thoughts, this can be a challenge. In these moments, think about your day and identify one positive thing that happened, no matter how small. If you can’t think of something from the current day, reflect on the previous day or even the previous week. Or perhaps there is an exciting event you are looking forward to that you can focus your attention on. 3. Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the “right” thing to do; it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%. Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy and substantially less anxiety due to lower cortisol levels.

S01E70- 3 Steps to Staying Positive

Practice self-awareness. Think of yourself as the conductor of an orchestra—focused on helping every person on your team perform at their best. To be effective in this work, you need to understand your own strengths as well as your weaknesses and leadership gaps. Understanding yourself helps you leverage your strengths and your gaps. And at the end of the day, we all need to understand what challenges us and allow that awareness to become better leaders. What we understand, we own—and what we own doesn’t own us.   Learn how to coach your people. The greatest and strongest leaders know they’re only as good as the teams around them, so they put tremendous emphasis on coaching and supporting their people, helping them grow. It’s important to give each person the attention and feedback that will motivate them to make meaningful contributions.   Be willing to talk about difficult subjects. It’s always nice when you can act as a cheerleader for your organization, but the more important task is to help your team navigate the uncertain times. Business is messy, leadership isn’t easy and the way ahead may be far from clear. Communicate with your team about the issues facing your organization and industry—things like risks, variables, volatile markets. When you do, you not only build trust but also quash speculation and rumor mills.   Ask for help when you need it. Most leaders consider themselves highly capable, which makes it even harder when they need to ask for support. But requesting help from others will always be one of the best ways to become a better leader. If you’re feeling stuck, seek out a mentor or hire a coach.   Serve as a model. When you act as a model of integrity and hard work when you talk the talk and walk the walk. People will admire your leadership and work to emulate your behavior. If you want to become a better leader, work on modeling the qualities you’d like to see in your team and in others.   CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM  CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK CLICK HERE TO VISIT OUR WEBSITE AND FOR SHOW NOTES

S01E69- Building Leadership

CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK CLICK HERE TO FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM CLICK HERE TO VISIT OUR WEBSITE / SHOWNOTES   Don’t Worry? Be grateful. Having trouble sleeping? I have lots of trouble sleeping. Which sucks because when I wake up I feel like I sleep 0 hours haha. But one thing has helped me with those late nights. Well a few things have helped. So in my hot showers i prep my “grateful list” this is a journal type of therapy. So basically when you feel restless at night because your mind is moving around so much with worry, what you do is telling yourself to STOP and as soon as you do, start asking yourself what you're grateful for today. If you feel you can’t come up with anything I’m going to call BS.. because if your hearing this you're Alive. Right? So how the list gets bigger is you start with what you're grateful for today and then work backwards, what where you grateful for this week? This month? Etc What this does is helps your worrying mind settle, and it helps your worry realize there is nothing to worry about. The reasons I do this in the shower is because I feel that’s where I can really decompress and focus on me. But I also do this at night if I can’t sleep. If you think writing these down will help I strongly recommend. This helps  not only help your anxiety and your worry calm down but it also helps bring you back to reality, and realize the things you are grateful for.

S01E68- Don't Worry, Be Grateful

Before You Quit   But how can you tell when quitting is the right thing to do? After all, if you give in every time you feel like throwing in the towel, you’ll never get anything done. These four questions can help give you an idea of whether it’s time to say goodbye, or keep at it just a little longer.  1. Why did I start this in the first place?  You should remind yourself of why you started. Understanding your “why” and examining whether to make a more rational decision on whether they should quit or keep trying.  2. Why do I feel the need to quit.  We want to quit something when it makes us unhappy or uncomfortable. In addition to understanding why you took it on in the first place, figuring out why we are thinking of giving up makes it easier to decide what’s best. Make sure you know specify the reason to yourself. So you can ask yourself.. is quitting going to make me happier? Will quitting make you regret it ?  3. Talk to people. Reach out to like minded folk, so you can try to see what they went through and how they made it out. Maybe in doing this it will help you tru something you haven’t figured out.  4. Set mile stones.    Yes goals are a big deal. But you need to make sure the things your attempting are achievable in your current situation. Ask you self is this goal to big ? Maybe creating smaller mile stones to get to that goal will help ease the stress and help you build your confidence.

S01E67- Before Quitting

So many people focus on what they are bad at and get so looped in to it that they get frustrated trying to do all the things and give up. Trade for some help - a fun solution to finding people you need for your project is to do some trade work. If you have the budget then paying wouldn’t be bad either. But pay someone or do some trade work to do the social media because you're not good at it or whatever it is your not good at. Focus on your strengths - Build in the areas your strongest. So you can execute with the best quality you can produce. With out being stressed with the worry of the projects that you now outsourced. Building trust - This helps build trust between you and a new potential co worker or partner. This is why networking is important. You get to find  people of all areas different work areas. Which make it easier to connect the dots when you feel like you are struggling in an area in your business.

S01E66- Worry about your best

Although its not Flash Back Friday, we wanted to shed some light on an older episode we did with Parenting w/ Anxiety. Tune in :)  Follow us on Instagram and Facebook!  Don't forget to subscribe to our channel, and leave a rating.

S01E66 Parenting w/ Anxiety

Resting   I spoke a bit on getting some rest in our last episode. Today I want to share 3 types of my favorite types kinds of rest.    First off rest is important. I know lots of entrepreneurs talk about you need to put in all the work possible if your gonna make it in this game. But realistically as a parent it’s really tough to do anything with out taking care of you first. That includes getting rest. I don’t mean sleep all day. But I do mean learning to put the pen down and do something else for a bit.   The point is to avoid fatigue, and the ant irritation you get towards what it is your down. Trial and error can get repetitive. So instead of getting frustrated in attempt number 3, 4 or 5 we need to just put the pen down and distract ourselves. And come back to it with a much more clear mind.    Time Away- so time away can be anything really. For me it’s time with my family away from home. it doesn’t have to be a drive to the mountains. But getting away from your desk, and distract yourself. spend the day on a beautiful nature hike. If your away from the mountains go grab lunch with a friend and enjoy the day not thinking about work. Doing something unproductive. Now this is something I can’t do for a long time but, it helps on times were all I’m doing is work work working all day. So sitting down and playing some Nintendo switch or coloring or just going outside for a walk is very helpful in resting my mind and putting me back at ease. Finding a peaceful space to just sit there and decompress. Now for me a lot of the time it’s - hot shower in my home.. I sit there in total silence. That’s my safe spot where I feel I can drop my guard, all thoughts, and feelings about whatever is going on. I simply sit in totally silence and relax.     With that being said my friends, rest is important if your going to continue the path of entrepreneurship or to keep yourself motivated. Life is stressful so getting away is a powerful tool that can keep us on the right path for completing our milestones. Give your self time, rest and  stay positive.   With that being said my friends. I hope everyone has an amazing Monday!    Follow us on Instagram and Facebook.   Check out the show notes at the bottom of the episode.

S01E65- Get some rest

Success requires replacement   Replace TV with Sleep Replace fake influencers with inspiring creators replace toxic friends with mentors replace complaining with gratitude   Replace blame and work responsibly  Replace alcohol with water   Click to follow us on Instagram  CLICK TO FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK  

S01E64- Success Requires Replacement

“Your attitude towards life will determine the quality of your life”   We all deal with life struggles. Some not as severe as others. But we all have struggles. What separates me from others is I don’t let things affect the quality of my life. I can sit here an mope about how crappy it is to have anxiety, to have dealt with depression but I don’t. Instead I chose to figure out ways to make my day better, one of them includes helping others out of the dark hole they are in.    There is more to life then being sad, and telling people NO because you anxiety won’t let you. Living with these struggles are not easy, and living life pretending is no way to live of course, so find something that you can truly live with that makes you happier.    I have anxiety but I find ways to not only make my situation less of a pain, and work towards my life goals.  Here are a few ways you can try to get out of the struggles of mental health.   Write it out One of the worst aspects of anxiety is not knowing why you feel nervous in the first place. You could be lying on an idyllic beach with the ocean waves lapping in the distance and still feel worried for absolutely no reason. That’s when writing can help. It can be an effective way to explore how you feel, especially if talking out loud feels impossible. Studies show that keeping a journal is actually a healthy way to deal with negative feelings and can help reduce stress.   Use fragrance Lavender is well known for its calming properties. Keep a small bottle of lavender oil on hand for the scent, for when you feel anxious thoughts brewing. If you practice mindfulness or meditation, try smelling lavender during your practice. Over time, you’ll associate the feeling of relaxation with that scent, making it even more effective.   Talk to someone who gets it If your feelings of anxiety are making it hard to function, you should speak to a health professional. But talking to friends can also help. I have friends who have an anxiety too. When I’m feeling really bad, I send them a message telling them how I’m feeling. They might have a new hack I can try, or they can point out something that might have acted as a trigger. But sometimes it’s just nice to vent to someone who knows how it feels to be in my shoes.   Try your best to figure out ways that will help make life easier for you. Life does have so many things to offer, and the better you take care of yourself the better quality of life you will get to experience.

S01E63- Determine the Quality of Your Life

Every situation they experience, even negative ones, turn into something they are grateful for. Find a topic you love to talk about Always speak highly of everyone you know Promise to embrace change Become the one who finds the blessings in every situation Wish only goodwill to your competitors Encourage someone with your support FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM @ TALKABOUTIT_THEPODCAST  

S01E62- Be Positive

INTRO Today, we’re talking about the freedom we get when we stop taking everything so personal.    THE CHALLENGE The challenge with not taking things personal is that sometimes it’s hard not to. You’re so invested to whatever it is that you’re doing that when someone dislikes it or critiques it, you feel hurt or offended.    So the question now is, what does the freedom feel like? And how do I get there?    Some steps to help you out!    Know Your Self-Worth.  If you know yourself and your worth as a person, you won’t be so quick to take the judgments of others personally. Take time to get to know yourself apart from who others may say you are.     Know Your Emotional Triggers.  All of us have emotional triggers from the past. Certain actions people take may trigger us to become sensitive about particular things. For example, if your father was overly critical, and you tried to be perfect to please him, someone pointing out that you made a mistake could trigger you to feel more sensitive than another person might under the same circumstances. When you do get upset about a situation, ask yourself, “Am I really upset about this situation, or is this one of my emotional triggers?”    Practice Authenticity.  This is the practice of letting go of thinking that you need to be someone else and actually embracing who you are. You must truly accept who and what you really are in order to be authentically you. Practice authenticity by doing what’s best for you, putting yourself first, and really understanding what’s good for you.    Set Boundaries.  Setting proper boundaries in your relationships will help you take things less personally. You put these boundaries in place by saying no to work, love, or activities that you don't want to do or that harm you emotionally. Doing too much to please others can lead you to feel overly sensitive when they do something that upsets you.   5.Let It Go. Use a painful experience from your past to help make you who you are. Use it to give you strength, empathy, and character. We all have something that has hurt us. Don't let it define who you are. Instead, use it to get stronger and make yourself proud. You’ve been there, you can get passed anything.

S01E61- Building a Thicker Skin

Follow us on Instagram @talkaboutit_thepodcast THE CHALLENGE: Everyone has an insecurity about something. It may be one insecurity or several insecurities but we all have insecurities. I want to be honest with you and tell you about my insecurity. I haven’t found a permanent solution but I’ve found a couple of solutions that help with my insecurity little by little. I’ve noticed something new about me that’s causing an insecurity. Sweaty Hands! When I get really anxious, my hands get sweaty. I notice this most in my workplace because of things like presenting, talking in front of people, or being in meetings where discussion is heavy and detailed.This causes me to get anxious and then my hands sweat. Then it happens that I need to shake hands with everyone! What are the chances. It’s embarrassing to either have to pass on a handshake or have the person witness me dry my hands on my shirt/pants before I go in for a shake LOL that’s if they still want to shake my hand. Come to terms: Obviously my anxiousness won’t go away anytime soon so there’s a couple of things I have to tell myself every time this insecurity gets the best of me. 1. I need to figure out how I can solve this issue or at least figure out a temporary solution. 2 tell myself that my insecurities don’t make me less of a person. And 3. don’t be afraid to talk about it. Solution:I found a few things that help and I want to share them with you in case this helps you or someone you know. Or maybe it helps you figure out how to process your own insecurity.   First thing is trying to manage my stress. After speaking with my wife about this problem, she suggested that I should create structure for myself when it comes to my responsibilities at work. Instead of just going in and tackling 100 things at once, I should to write down a few key tasks I plan to work on for the day and number them by priority. And tackle one thing at a time. Repeat daily.  The second thing I found helps is washing my hands with soap several times throughout the day. It helps dry up the moisture in my hands. I also keep hand sanitizer in my pocket.  Third thing is not being afraid to talk about my insecurity. From several interactions I’ve had, I learned that several people actually have similar things happen to them. Not all were sweaty hands but some break out on their face, some get sweaty armpits, and some even break out in hives! None of these things make us less human. It does suck and it does cause us to be very self conscious but it shouldn’t prevent us from being ourselves and getting work done. And most of the time, someone is in the same or similar boat.  Wrap it up: I know having sweaty hands isn’t the end of the world but it makes me feel insecure sometimes. Has it stopped me from being me? Nope! The moral to this is to not let your insecurities take ownership of who you are. If what works for you is to change your habits or some other safe solutions then don’t be afrai

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