In the first solo episode since "Is She....Letting Herself Go," Danielle discusses the ways she has always had to "tone herself down" to fit into the confines of societal norms and expectations. However, now that she is older and has stopped restricting herself so much, she is working towards creating a life where she can feel as close to 100% of her true self as often as possible. This means podcasting more, containing to work towards body acceptance and allowing herself to continue to savor aspects of life which we're taught to actually limit ourselves. In this episode, Danielle discusses:How we're taught from a young age not to be "too much."What she wishes she had been told about careers, sexuality, and monogamy.How not restricting herself anymore has actually led to more self-confidence.The way giving herself permission to admit her needs and desires has led to more sex and better sex.Why she's no longer buying into the concept of "happiness," and what she's focusing on instead.What she wants to give her kids permission to do, that she has never felt the permission to do herself.All the ways she wants to be weird, and the ways she's letting her freak flag fly higher and higher.If you liked this episode please take a moment to rate and review on Apple and/or Spotify.Also, if you enjoyed this episode, you'll also enjoy:"Is She....Letting Herself Go?!"Awakening the Sex Talk DemonsWant to have real, raw conversations with your partner in a gentle, productive, and fun way? Don't forget to buy the Date Night Questions, available in print and ebook versions. Use code "reconnect" for 15% off the book, and "e-checkin" for 15% off the ebook. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Letting My Freak Flag Fly - A Solo Birthday Episode

Danielle and Adam have been participating in their own challenge for over three weeks now, and the results have been awesome. When Danielle first created The Challenge, she hoped that it would lead to improved communication, intimacy, laughter, and connection....and it has far surpassed her expectations. Now, Danielle and Adam are offering other couples to have the same chance to participate in their own version of The Challenge. This month-long experience gives couples everything they need to choose a challenge for one another, prepare for the exciting "reveal meeting" for the challenge, check-in with one another throughout, and end with a celebratory Date Night with exclusive Date Night Questions only accessible to those who participate in the challenge.With tons of opportunities to feel more seen, valued, and understood, the challenge is unlike anything couples have most likely experienced. Plus, there is only a small time commitment, it's incredibly affordable, and there's room for collaboration and discussion. Listen to episode to hear more details about the challenge, and then head to Marriage and Martinis to sign up, and choose promo code "podcastchallenge" for $10 off your one month subscription. Signing up in only the beginning. Check your inbox on Wednesday to receive your first guide and get going on making this challenge a complete success!! WE CANNOT WAIT for you to join!! The last day to sign up for the November challenge will be November 6th. It will formally begin on November 6th. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

MINI EPISODE: Join Our First Couples' Challenge!

In their follow-up episode about The Love Languages, Danielle and Adam go much deeper into everything from the overall concept, certain problematic aspects of the overall phenomena, and what they would both need from EACH of the five love languages. Plus, they talk more about Adam's findings concerning the symbolism behind the upside-down pineapple and the red Adirondack chairs. What are Danielle's thoughts about Words of Affirmation, and what would she prefer to have that feels more organic and authentic? How have their needs for each of the five things changed over time, and what do they need more of now that they may not have needed in the past? Whether or not you've had any experiences with the five love languages, this episode will offer ideas to make it all more productive, comprehensive, and impactful for couples, as well as for friendships. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Love Languages, Part Two

People always ask Danielle and Adam to do an episode on The Five Love Languages. So, they're finally doing it. But, they're doing it their own way. Danielle talks about why she refuses to choose one love language. Adam talks about his concern that the love languages quiz would be viewed more of a "test" and how that affected his answers. The two discuss how their love language styles would have most definitely changed over the course of their relationship, and how certain important aspects of their relationship don't seem to fit into any of the love languages. Stay tuned for part two next week when Danielle and Adam go even deeper into what they would want and need from each love language.Want to have conversations that lead to fun, better communication, and renewed intimacy? Get your copy of The Date Night Questions and use code "RECONNECT" for 15% off the paperback version, and "E-CHECKIN" for 15% off the ebook. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Five Love Languages, Veruca Salt Style

Danielle and Hanif discuss the life events that impacted Hanif so greatly that he co-founded the Center For Equity and Inclusion. Born to a father of Indian descent from Tanzania, and a Mexican-American mother, Hanif breaks down how being a person of color has affected his identity in every space he's occupied in life. Also, how his parents' desire to have their children assimilate into American culture caused a lot of confusion concerning how he should feel about his mixed background. For these reasons and more, he became intensely set on teaching others how we can make schools, workplaces, homes, and communities feel more accepting and comfortable regardless of someone's gender, sexual orientation, etc. Danielle asks Hanif small, actionable steps we can all take immediately if we want to be a part of the movement towards inclusive spaces.Contact Hanif through the Center for Equity and Inclusion (https://ceipdx.com/).haniffazal.com Pre-Order links for An Other World -Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1774583313Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/an-other-world-hanif-fazal/1142911253Powells World of Books: https://www.powells.com/book/an-other-world-9781774583319 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Inclusion Is A Verb, With Hanif Fazal

Danielle and Adam have the opportunity to choose one challenge for each other to complete in the next thirty days. They discuss how they came up with these challenges, how they think one another should go about doing the work to complete them, and what the ultimate goal is for each.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Challenge

Why is it so hard for us to get into a mindset that allows us to just feel contentment and happiness in the life we've created? In this episode, Danielle discusses the "guilt" she feels for not being able to fully embrace all of the new, positive aspects of life this move has brought their family. If happiness is the goal in life, why is it so difficult for us to feel that ultimate emotion over long periods of time? Adam and Danielle break down the thoughts of Brene Brown, the ways we've been conditioned to never actually get content in a state of happiness, and why maybe, just maybe, moments of pleasure and joy are the actual answers to that for which we're searching.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Waiting For The Other Shoe To Drop

After a whirlwind phase of chaotic life events, Danielle wants to take a moment and discuss how far she and Adam have come as individuals, as a couple, and especially as parents. But, the two realize that just stopping and living in the moment is difficult when there are still so many uncertainties. Still, the couple attempt to discuss the fact that it's necessary to stop and reflect on how much they've accomplished together over the past year and a half (and longer). Some things the two discuss:Why we all need to celebrate the moments that society might not deem "worthy" of an official celebration much more often.What Danielle and Adam did as parents that helped their kids through their most difficult times so far, and why it was so impactful.How Danielle's OCD has helped her to revel in the "small wins" in life more than the average person most likely does.Updates on" Mia's adjustment to college; How Danielle and Adam's attempt to sleep in the same bed is going; how the new house is coming along.If you enjoyed this (or any other) Marriage and Martinis podcast episode, please take a moment to support Adam and Danielle by rating and reviewing on Apple Podcasts and/or Spotify. It helps them so much, and, it's totally free and easy (just like Danielle). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let's See How Far We've Come

Three days ago, Danielle and Adam dropped their daughter, Mia, off for her freshman year at college. But getting to this point was nothing short of a rollercoaster of a journey. In this episode, Danielle and her sister, Life Coach Amy, discuss what they've both learned about preparing our kids (and ourselves) for the post-high school phase. Amy has sent her two kids off to college, and helps other moms deal with this transitional time of life filled with so much change and uncertainty. Some topics the two discuss are:How struggles are actually necessary and beneficial for our kids preparing to go away for school.Why it's essential that our kids concentrate on life skills that aren't taught in school or most extra-curricular activities. What one thing is making this whole process so much easier for Danielle, and why she wants every parent to understand how important it is to help our children follow their natural course.How Amy has navigated having a child at school who doesn't communicate as much as she would like.What essential skills should kids know before heading off to college or into "the real world?"How to find the good in each situation, even if it feels far from perfect.Subscribe to Life Coach Amy Alpert's amazing must-read newsletter, and follow her on substack. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"It Doesn't Have To Be Perfect To Be Wonderful," With Life Coach Amy Alpert

For the majority of their relationship, Danielle and Adam have slept in separate bedrooms. So, what happens when, after all this time, they attempt to sleep together all through the night in the same bed? Why does Danielle feel like this is an important change to make in the relationship at this particular stage of life? How did they start sleeping in separate bedrooms in the first place? Adam and Danielle break down the history of their "sleep divorce" and all the reasons it may have worked for them in the past. Plus, is Adam ok with the only physical affection he gets being from Danielle and the kids? Does he wish his friends were more affectionate? For anyone who has anything "taboo" about their relationship, you will not want to miss this episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sleeping With The Enemy

In an episode that Adam describes as, "one of his favorite we've ever recorded," the two discuss more concerning etiquette and how these unwritten "rules" have affected their lives. Adam goes deep into the frustration of owning a retail business and why "the customer isn't always right." Danielle talks about the workers who she thinks should be tipped ALL THE MONEY for what they are expected to do. They also talk about the hardships of teaching kids how to behave out in the world when over the last 18 months, there has been a whole lot of time at home. What "teachable moments" are important to Danielle regarding her kids, and how is she trying to make up for lost time during the pandemic when it comes to showing their kids how to be socially considerate and caring with people you know, and when it comes to strangers.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

MnM Vintage - Good Intentions, Bad Execution

This episode of the podcast is brought to you by two people who desperately need sleep, don't have enough energy to make much sense, but really wanted to check in with everyone with a quick update. Danielle and Adam discuss finally being in their new home, why this was the most draining of all the moves, and how they're embracing their new small-town lifestyle. Danielle talks more about her guilt concerning moving the cats to a new home, and Adam is excited to talk all about his new lawnmower and weedwacker. Plus, how has this move made them think differently about the importance of life changes, especially while in their 40s? But mostly, this episode is a lot of rambling, and these two aren't even sure if anything they've said during the hour even makes sense. We recommend listening to the prior episodes about moving before listening to this episode.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One New House, Two Tired AF People.

It took two tries for Danielle and Adam to record this episode, because the first attempt ended in one of the worst arguments they've had in months. However, the second time, the conversation was one of the best and most honest talks about sex and intimacy on the podcast. However, this was after four hours of heated debate and fighting after Danielle opened up a "can of worms" that neither of them was expecting would result in such anger and frustrating on both their parts. In what Danielle claims was an "indicator of how fragile the male ego can be when it comes to feedback about sexual performance," the fight after the first (partial) recording brought up everything from Adam's famous statement in an episode back in 2018, "when I'm done, I'm done," the fact that men have never been taught to take women's pleasure seriously, that women are not strongly encouraged to take their own pleasure seriously (until later in life), and the truth about female pleasure is never truly researched and discussed by male partners. However, after clearing the air and finally calming down, they are able to have a truly productive and eye-opening discussion as to why their intimacy is better now than it ever was, and what secrets they can share about steps couples can take to become more compatible sexually and connect on a deeper, more passionate level. But first, they need to go back and acknowledge that their intimacy was definitely not always like that. Danielle and Adam both agree that this might be their favorite episode on the topic of sex they've ever done. Everyone should listen to this important, honest episode, no matter their relationship status.The two also discuss:Misconceptions about the clitoris and the female orgasm.Why women are so quick to fake an orgasm, and the reasons men just believe it's real.How girls really feel when making out with boys as teenagers.What they want their own kids to understand about female pleasure.Why men don't think to ask what they can do to better pleasure a woman.Why it's important to have these conversations consistently, rather than all in one session.Get the Date Night Questions Book! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Awakening the Sex Talk Demons

In a society that glamorizes the idea of "doing it all," it's easy to get sucked in to the idea that if we aren't doing it all, we're somehow failing. But according to Kendra, AKA "The Lazy Genius," we absolutely do not need to and should not even attempt to do it all. In this episode, self proclaimed "hot mess mom" Danielle asks Kendra about everything from the secret to making a good "to do list," to how we can possibly stop feeling like laundry is taking over our lives, to how we know what's an essential task not to be ignored, and which things we need to put on the back burner. Want to be more productive by doing less? Then you don't want to miss this conversation.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Beauty of Doing Less, With The Lazy Genius

In this highly requested follow-up to last week's episode about moving into their seventh house, Danielle and Adam talk more deeply about how the stress is starting to manifest in ways that aren't so positive, and how the impending move is making them appreciate certain aspects of their current lives that they may have taken for granted. Also, what types of rituals, products, and habits are saving them right now, and making the whole process a little easier? Danielle talks new bras, clothing, and body image, and Adam talks about picking up old habits as a means to cope. Plus, where would they each move if money wasn't an issue, and what dream projects would they do in their new home?Tractive GPS is the world's most-trusted GPS tracker for pets. This small waterproof device gives you live location updates of your pet straight to your phone, no matter where you are in the world -- so you never have to worry while you're on a walk, on vacation, or leaving your dog with a sitter. Plus -- you can set virtual fences, track their activity and sleep like a FitBit, and more!Live in the New Jersey are and looking for a unique, delicious dessert truck to come and bring some unique excitement to your party? Check out Wandering Sweets.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sh*t's Getting Real (Moving Episode Part 2).

In this extremely vulnerable episode, Adam and Danielle divulge all the details concerning their move: why, where, and when. Plus, they go on some pretty crazy tangents about some TMI concerning Danielle's recent sexual craze, and Adam's ridiculous stress level. The two discuss how their relationship has changed since the last move, and how Adam's obsession with moving has completely transformed. Plus, what are they hoping to get from their new house and the town to which they're moving that they haven't gotten before?Every pet owner needs Tractive to give them peace of mind about their pet getting lost.Live in the New Jersey are and looking for a unique, delicious dessert truck to come and bring some unique excitement to your party? Check out Wandering Sweets.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

THE SEVENTH HOUSE (yes, seventh)

It's pride month, but it's always a good time to celebrate all the love. This episode has no shortage of real, honest, deep, intense love, and what beautiful things can happen when someone stops letting society dictate how their life should look, and starts looking inward to make big decisions. Danielle was so excited to catch up with her friend, Linda, to get caught up on the impactful and enormous changes that have occurred since she came out over two years ago. Danielle was even more thrilled that Linda's partner, Maddy, (who happens to be pregnant with Linda's ex-husband/co-parent's baby) was gracious enough to join the conversation. They catch up on the huge events that have taken place, including:How Linda and Maddy met and fell in loveWhat life looks like now, while they are living with Chris, Linda's ex-husband and their kidsWhat made them ask Chris if he would be willing to be the biological father of Maddy's baby, and what his response wasHow people react to their "atypical" familyWhat it's like living in Florida now that so much anti-LGBTQ legislation is being passed, and if they plan to moveWhat they will tell the new baby's older siblings concerning why their family looks different from other familiesHow they deal with negative looks, attention, and feedback concerning their unique lifestyleLinda and Maddy have recently been feature in People magazine and other media outlets to highlight their love story. But only on this episode will you get the raw, complete details of how it all happened.Check out Linda's instagram @fruitsofmotherhood to follow along their journey from here.Click here to purchase Tractive pet tracker and use code "Martini" for 20% off. Tractive is the #1 pet tracking device, and the only way to achieve true peace of mind as a pet owner.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Love Makes A Family, With Linda Fruits and Maddy Gross

Danielle and Adam are finally reunited with Erica and Jamilah from the podcast, Good Moms Bad Choices, and in this episode they are going DEEP into what society gets wrong about relationships, and why they're shifting the narrative about what a "life-partner" can look like. These best friends discuss everything from how Erica had the courage to ask Milah to "be her friend," when they were both young single moms, and the incredible bond that has developed and evolved since then.In this episode:Why society needs to carve out a more important place for the role friends play in each other's lives.What happens when two single moms become best friends AND business partners.Why Erica and Jamilah want everyone to explore what our lives might look like if we acknowledged that "the rules are fake."How the two have dealt with one of them getting into a serious romantic relationship while the other friend is still "in limbo."In what ways none of them are the same as they were when they met five years ago.How their relationship resembles a marriage in so many ways, yet legally there's no way to benefit from this relationship.Why women need to start embracing one another for exactly who we are rather than sitting in judgment.How their bad choices actually are the reason they're so successful.Check out Erica and Jamilah's new book, A Good Mom's Guide To Making Bad Choices, on Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, or wherever you buy books.Follow Good Moms Bad Choices on Instagram.If you loved this episode, you'll also love episodes #81, #90, and #194.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Platonic Soulmates Are Real, With Good Moms Bad Choices

So many couples go years without ever truly "checking in" with one another to discuss how things are going between them and which aspects of their relationship they need to focus on and improve, as well as which aspects of their relationship are going well. Danielle and Adam sit down to do a "relationship check-in" in real time. After looking for a "check-in" that suits their needs but not finding anything she really liked, Danielle creates one that she feels is more comprehensive and balanced. Here's some of what this discussion covers:How are they doing in terms of supporting one another?How is intimacy/sex and how can they improve?Parenting wins as well as what they could be doing better.FinancesFun/laughterGratitudeAny couple who feels they could benefit from a check-in with one another should absolutely listen to this episode, as it exemplifies what it means to take the time to focus on one another and remember that you are a team. It is filled with opportunities for positive discussion, while also leaving room to explore areas for growth.Sign up for Marriage and Martinis' emails here to receive a PDF copy of the "relationship check-in" created by Danielle for this episode.Want to take your check-ins to the next level and really discuss aspects of your relationship in a fun, intimate, and productive way? Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Loved this episode? Then we think you'll also love episodes 220 (The PIVOT Episode Part One) and 221 (The PIVOT Episode Part Two). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Relationship Check-In

Danielle has been extremely honest about her struggle with body image and self-acceptance. She was so excited to sit down and ask one of her biggest role models, Sarah Landry (aka The Bird's Papaya) all about her experience and journey towards unapologetic body confidence. The two discuss why a attaining a "goal body" isn't all it's cracked up to be, how they're trying to show up in the world even when they feel uncomfortable, and what they really think makes a person incredibly sexy. Sarah talks about the first time she let her husband really touch her stomach after being a "no-go" zone for so long. Danielle discusses a time when she unintentionally made her daughter self-conscious about her appearance, and what she has since learned from her mistake. Danielle and Sarah also commiserate about how clothing stores have taken the joy and excitement out of shopping, and instead made it an experience filled with exclusion and shame.Follow Sarah on Instagram.Check our Sarah's website and blog.If you enjoyed this episode, and/or any episode of the Marriage and Martinis podcast, please rate and review on Apple, and/or Spotify.Want to have a gentle, open discuss about body confidence with your partner but aren't sure how to go about it? Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Really struggling to find inner peace and show up in the world in your body at this moment? Us too. That's why we wrote this guide and journal to taking steps towards more body confidence. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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