Dear Sam,
I met my boyfriend a little over a year ago. Everything was perfect. I mean, too good to be true perfect, no fighting, great to me and my child. Anyway, after our one year together, he started to have no feelings. Like, he was empty. He said that the only feeling he had was for his boys, and that as they get older, they don’t need him anymore and that hurts him.
It makes me feel so confused because everything was great. At first I thought he sounded depressed but now I am thinking he just turned 50 and might be having a midlife crisis. But I am unsure, and unsure how to help him. We still live together but just as friends because he broke up with me. But he said he didn’t want to hurt me. I need help please . . . what should I do?

We Are Now Room Mates And Not A Cuople

Dear Sam
I found out recently that my daughter’s mother has been dating men she meets from out of town on Facebook. She meets guys on Facebook and I guess she has conversations with them via DM. I found out about it because my oldest daughter with her is 10 years old. My 10 year old told me because she wanted to go to a slumber party but her mother told her she needs to stay with me on the weekend. I thought she was just letting me bond with them more but according to my daughter, she is inviting these guys to come down from wherever they come from and spend the weekend with her in her house. My daughter is afraid for her and wants me to say something to her. I’m thinking they might need to come live with me. Am I overreacting? Is it my place to ask her about her dating life?

My Kids Mother Has Different Men Over Every Weekend And Our Daughter Is Concern

Dear Sam
I am getting up in age, I have a successful career, and because of that career I have put a lot of things on hold. The biggest is having a family. I have had a hard time finding the man of my dreams because of work. However I have been a little more than friends with a married co-worker. Before everyone starts dogging me I know I am wrong for sleeping with this but I don't want him. As a matter of fact I just needed to get pregnant, which I did. I never told him about the baby but what happened was before I even started showing I lost my job. Unfortunately I do need his help a little now that the baby is here. I went to him and told him. He hit the roof and told me to go to hell and stay away from him. My question I guess is am I out of bounds if I take him to court? How should I handle this I still don't want him but I do need a little help?

I'm Pregant By A Coworkers Who Is Married

Dear Sam
I have been dating this guy off and on for awhile. Things have been going really good. He proposed, I said yes. Then a woman comes to him saying that she is 6 months pregnant. It happened on our of again but now he seems confused on what to do. This will be his first child now I feel cheated. She is acting like we shouldn't get married and he should come back to her. I love him and I want to be supportive but am I asking for trouble for going ahead with a marriage to a man that is about to have a new born baby? Should I be trying to bridge a relationship with this woman for the sake of the child? I've been praying about this. But I would like to know how should I handle this?

We Are Engaged But He Has A Baby On The Way

Dear Sam,
I have a major crush on my boss who is single. I’m in a long-term relationship in which my sex drive has been quite high over the past few months and my partner is generally always too tired to do anything. We also have had some problems this year but I don’t think that we are at the stage of breaking up. When we occasionally have sex, I am picturing my boss.   My boyfriend and I have a young child together and I just don’t know why I can’t get over this crush! My boss is quite older than me, very kind and to me very good looking. I fantasize about him banging my brains out (At work), I’m not interested in a relationship with him. When it is just him and I, I feel that he sometimes flirts.  He stands close to me, stares and we touch each other’s hand while handing over documents. However, in a group setting, he hardly talks to me and keeps his distance. We also have zero communication outside of work and I know that nothing will ever happen between us, he is not the type of person to fool around with his employee. He regularly talks about the woman who I took over from at work which sometimes annoys me for some reason. How do I get over this crush without having to resign? Or should I resign and shoot my shot?

She Wants To Bang Her Boss

Dear Sam, 

I have been seeing a guy for a total of 10 plus years we lost touch and decided to give it a try again so here are my issues , if he stays at my home for a few nights a week , he won’t take a shower but instead wash up in the sink because he says you get the same results. I have a home church  and I am very active in the church he doesn’t belong to one , he complains when I have to go to church or volunteer , so I invite him to come along he always has an excuse , he has taken me to his house for a few times , but each time we go he seems to take a different route so I won’t remember how to get there , I have asked him to send me the address so I can stop by while I am out , well first of all he won’t send it , and next he will say he won’t be home and lastly he will say since I have obligations (child) at home I don’t need to know his address because he always has to come to me anyway if we are going to spend time together, he is a diabetic so our sex life isn’t all of that because the medication he is on causes him to have {erd}, next since his younger years he use to date older women so he has gone to a lot of places that I haven’t gone to , so when I ask him to go with me he will say he don’t have an interest because he do it already. I am sure it’s more things to list , I tell him that we aren’t equally yolked because it’s not like I need him financially or anything, I love him but after all of the above items ,I don’t think I am in love with him and it’s about wasting time , since life is so short and we don’t get to pick how long we are going to live .Any advice on this dilemma.

Fool For Love

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Dear Sam,
I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. He has always been great, not really a jealous person, other than about my cousin. I wasn’t raised with my cousin, I met him for the first time when we were 21, and at the time I didn’t know he was my cousin, we met at a club and we ended up kissing ONCE over 4-5 years ago, but nothing sexually happened, I found out he was my cousin when we linked up a week later, nor have we even mentioned it. He moved away, and he has become one of my best friends, he is always there for me and is just such an important person in my life. At no point has he tried to do anything remotely inappropriate to me. My boyfriend read thru our messages and saw that he called me sweetie and just went crazy, and said he needed a break. After 2 days he told me he can’t really see us together if my cousin is at all involved in my life. I at first agreed, but now I just keep thinking about how I’m unsure if I want to give up my cousin for him. I do see a future with my boyfriend, we have talked about marriage and buying a house and kids, and only now has there ever been a problem. I’m wondering whether or not I’m doing the right thing?

I Kissed My Cousin

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Dear Sam, 
My husband and I have been married for 6 years out of those 6 years he has never had a password on his phone there has never been an issue with me going through it no trust issues nothing however I have always had  a passcode because the kids share with me. (He's always had access if needed) so he went to the store and left his phone on the couch I pick it up and this is how I discovered that his phone is now locked.  I want to address the issue but i dont want to look insecure or like im accusing him of something. How would you approach this issue?

My Husband Changed His Password

Dear Sam,
Hey, really lost. I have been dating” this man for years! I have seen him twice since meeting. He’s a wonderful guy but literally lacks communication skills and he has so much going on in his personal life. In my heart of hearts I don’t believe he is cheating. My issue is though that I am missing that physical connection one gets with their partner. I am missing being around him and just in his company. He keeps saying soon, soon, soon and when it happens it will be worth it but I feel like I am cheating myself out of livings my life waiting on him. What can I do to ease this feeling or do I just live and see if maybe God brings us back? Please Help!

Should I Keep Waiting On Him

Dear Sam,
A good male friend and I were at a party of a mutual friends.  My male friend got drunk and I ended up giving him a ride home.  Well that's when decided to profess his romantic feelings to me.  The problem is I don't like him like that plus I have a man that is coincidently his friend.  I  just wrote it off as a drunken moment but a week later he brought it up again.  I told him i didn't like him like that.  Should I tell my boyfriend?

My Mans Friend Came On To Me Twice

Dear Sam,
I recently found out that my husband has been having phone conversations with another woman, that I have never met.  Well at least before I found out they had been talking.  According to both of them (yes I called her), they met at a local spot, enjoyed each others conversations as friends.  Now their conversations has gone from the spot to the phone and text.  They claim they just enjoy each others conversation and they can talk to each other about things they can't to others about.  In his case me, she on the other hand is single and claims he also gives her relationship advice.  Where I come from if your husband has a female friend that you don't know he's cheating but these two say they are not.  Am I wrong?  Is my husband cheating?  Who does that??  Please help!!

My Husband Met A Female Friend

Dear Sam,
Even though I met my now boyfriend years ago, (our teenage daughters are BFF's), we never really interacted until about eight months ago and we’ve been dating ever since. He’s been single for almost two years and has four children from two different women. His most recent ex, whom he has a 3-year-old with, does not want me around his daughter yet. This is understandable, but I am currently living with him so it’s difficult to avoid his daughter. He does not agree with his ex about keeping me away from their child, but he’s scared of her psychotic eruptions and goes along with it. I have met the rest of his family and have been around his other children numorous times and I am really close with his daughter who is best friends with my daughter. I have even met the daughter I’m not allowed to be around months ago without his ex knowing.  About a week ago, out of the blue, Brian suddenly changed his attitude toward me. He is no longer affectionate and stopped telling his ex that she and I need to meet so I can be allowed around their daughter. When I asked what was going on, he just said we were moving too fast and he wanted to slow things down. I assumed this was a breakup speech, but he insisted it wasn’t.  It seems like he is not working too hard to keep me around.  I know he is not cheating on me and I know how much he hates his ex, so there is no problem there. Could he possibly be letting me go to avoid drama with his ex?  Should I pack up my bags and move on?

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Dear Sam, 
I saw my sisters husband in traffic with a woman. I honked my horn and they looked over at me, he pulled off. About 15 mins later he called me and said was that you I just saw?  I let him know it was and asked who that woman was he said it was a coworker he was giving a ride. I asked if my sister knew he said yes. I don't believe him at all. It is starting to bother me. I want to say something to my sister but I don't want to get in her business and I'm sure he told her it was his coworker already. If it were you would you mention it?  I want her to pay attention to the signs of him cheating if he is. Would you tell?

Should I Tell My Sister

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Dear Sam, 
My brother fellnon hard times so he is staying with my mother, he also has a pregnant girlfriend who is staying as well. My mother and I talk about pretty much everything . She was telling me how my brother treats her and how he talks down to her, she said he is always cussing at her and making her feel low. My mom wants me to talk to her because we are closer in age and it won't feel like an adult telling her what to do or making her feel stupid. My mom keeps telling my brother about his behavior but he obviously isn't listening. I am so torn I want to help my mother but I don't want to be involved because once they are back on good terms she will tell him what was said, then that is another conflict between my brother and I.  What should I do ?

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