In our final SDC podcast episode, our host and producer Lexi Sylver shares her journey from day 1 of hosting the show, some of her favorite experiences and guests, and what her plans are for the future. Thank you for listening!

It’s Been Lexual: Seek, Discover, Create’s Series Finale

Do you want to know what it’s like to be a porn star? Our host Lexi Sylver invites Spencer Michael Barrick, aka Damon Dice, to get personal about his experiences as a performer in the adult industry, and his journey from entrepreneur to porn star. Spencer talks about how he began in the porn industry and how his roles and experiences have evolved over time, leading to his current contract for Bellesa, the largest porn site for women. He tells Lexi how he manages to balance his busy life as a performer while undertaking two businesses, PS Condoms and Can Be Done CBD. Spencer discusses how he mentally and physically prepares for porn scenes, how he manages performance anxiety, and how his on-set porn sex compares to the real-life sex he enjoys in his private life. Spencer also offers tips on the positive influence that certain kinds of porn can have on people’s sexuality and desire to explore.

From Entrepreneur to Porn Star: The True Story of Damon Dice

What’s it like to be a couple who swings? Our host Lexi Sylver invited Mickey and Mallory from the Casual Swinger Podcast to talk about their personal experiences in the swinging lifestyle. They debunk myths about what it’s like to be in an open relationship, exposing common misconceptions that non-swinger folks have about the swinging lifestyle. Mickey and Mallory delve into some of the mistakes they’ve made in the past within their own relationship, providing advice and tips for others to navigate within the lifestyle. They also share some sexy stories from their visits to Hedonism II, the popular nudist resort in Jamaica.

Exploring the Swinger Lifestyle

What is seduction really all about? How can you discover the best ways to seduce your partner? Host Lexi Sylver invites Marla Renee Stewart, MA and Dr. Jessica O’Reilly to talk about seduction and their new book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay. They discuss what seduction is really all about, and how seduction skills are key to becoming a great lover. Marla shares a few tips to discovering what kind of seduction styles will work best on your partner(s), and how learning these skills can make you a more confident lover. Dr. Jess talks about how the core erotic feelings behind someone’s desires can help us understand what your partner wants sexually and how they want to be seduced. They also explore how to communicate your fantasies to your partner, and how technology can help you seduce your partners and explore your fantasies.

Encore: How to Seduce Your Lover

What does it really mean to be in an open relationship? How can you get started in the swinger lifestyle? What are swingers and sex clubs actually like? What do you do when issues arise in your ethically non-monogamous relationship? Host Lexi Sylver flies solo this episode to talk to newbies and curious people and couples about swinging and open relationships. She introduces the basics of swinging and what it means for her and for others to be identified as open, who the swinging lifestyle is for, and what it’s not. Lexi highlights the importance of communication in relationships and how to talk to your partner about swinging and when feelings arise in the lifestyle, including how to cope with jealousy. She talks about how to meet other open-minded people, how to attract a unicorn, and what to do if swinging goes wrong. Lexi also answers several of the audience’s Letters to Lexi about open relationships.

Encore: Swinging and Open Relationships for Newbies

What’s the difference between shame and guilt? Who and what can create those feelings? How can shame manifest in your life in different ways, and how can you handle it? In this episode, host Lexi Sylver and guest Rahim Thawer explore the ways in which we can learn to develop feelings of shame and guilt, and the ways in which those can impact different spheres of our personal lives. They talk about how feeling shy or embarrassed are just some of the smaller ways in which we can feel shame on a day to day basis. They provide advice to live your life authentically and feel confident with your sexuality, and how to learn to cope with feelings of shame to live a more fulfilled life. Rahim also talks about how shame isn’t always a bad thing and explains what we can learn from feeling different kinds of shame in our lives. Lexi and Rahim also answer real-life questions from the audience during Letters to Lexi.

Overcoming Shame in Sexuality

Swinging and Open Relationships for Newbies

Do you want to know what it’s like for a woman behind the scenes of the adult entertainment industry? Specifically, what it’s like for a female director, producer and photographer behind the camera? In this episode, I'm joined by Holly Randall, world-renowned erotic photographer and adult film producer, and host of the #1 adult industry podcast, Holly Randall Unfiltered. Holly has worked for top adult brands like Twistys, Playboy Plus, Digital Playground and Penthouse, among others. Because of her unparalleled experience as a femme fatale in the male-dominated adult industry, Holly is going to help us explore that fine line between erotica and pornography, what it’s like to be a woman in charge on set, and the different views and perspectives about beauty, ethics and the industry that she brings to the table. She also gives some solid words of advice for women who are looking to make their mark in the pornography and erotic photography industries.

Encore: Pornography, Photography and the Female Gaze

How can reading and writing erotic stories help you seduce your partner? How can erotica be used to increase your sexual exploration? Erotica author Casey Carter joins host Lexi Sylver to share their advice for creating erotic literature and the benefits of getting creative as a way to communicate what you want sexually to your partner. They discuss how they write sexy characters and scenarios to entice, stimulate and inspire others to explore their sexuality, kinks and fetishes without shame. Casey and Lexi talk about their upcoming event, Cocktails and Erotic Tales, what it’s like to do live storytelling sessions for their fans. Finally, they provide tips and advice to creating and sharing erotica with your lovers.

Erotic Stories: Seduction to Exploration

Are you curious about kink and BDSM? Do you want to know why some kinky folks enjoy BDSM so much? If you want to discover more about the BDSM lifestyle, why it can be therapeutic, and how you can incorporate kinky play in your own life, you’re in the right place! Joining me, your host Lexi Sylver, for this episode is an amazing duo, Charlie and Arienne Williams of SexBecause. We go deep as Charlie and Arienne reveal their personal experiences with BDSM, and apply their clinical knowledge to our discussion about what a healthy dominant/submissive and/or master/slave relationship looks like, negotiating boundaries and establishing consent with your partner, and what after care can look like for different people in different scenarios. We also explore how and why BDSM can be considered therapeutic by some people, and how to kink it up a notch when the novelty of your BDSM play starts to wear off a bit. So tune in to join us as we shatter some crucial myths behind the kink.

Encore: BDSM: Mind, Body and Kink

To celebrate the new release of her erotic book, Mating Season: Erotic Short Stories, our show’s producer and host Lexi Sylver flies solo to talk about erotica… and teases you with a sexy reading from one of her stories! She also talks about how erotic literature has become more popular in recent years, and how newer erotica is more diverse and representative when it comes to characters and settings. She discusses how gender, sexual orientation and relationship orientation are explored in her book. Lexi explains the reasons why people may enjoy reading erotica and all the benefits of reading and writing erotic stories and sharing them with their lover(s). She examines how erotica is an underrated tool of seduction that can be incorporated into your partnered sex life to explore new fantasies. Lexi discusses the benefits of writing erotica, along with some tips on how you can write your own erotic story. She wraps up by answering questions from the audience in Letters to Lexi.

Encore: Erotic Stories and How to Write Them

What’s the big deal about masturbation? Why is there more shame and stigma for women when it comes to self-pleasure? Host Lexi Sylver invites sex educator and sex toy expert Julieta Chiara to discuss all the benefits of masturbation. They cover how self-pleasure is often rooted in shame, and how to change your mentality about touching yourself. Julieta offers tips for people looking to change up their masturbation routine, explore your body and experience more pleasure. She also explains how varying your repertoire can help improve your sex life. Lexi and Julieta discuss how mutual masturbation can increase the intimacy in your relationship and show your partner what you enjoy. They explore how sex toys can enhance partnered sex and how to communicate with your partner about what feels good and new things you want to try. Julieta and Lexi also talk about anal stimulation, warming up and how to make anal experiences more comfortable and pleasurable.

Encore: Self-Pleasure and Better Sex

What is it really like to be a swinger? Mr. Mocha, the co-producer of the lifestyle podcast Ofacez, joins host Lexi Sylver to share some of his wisdom gained from over a decade of swinging. They debunk myths that newbies have when they first enter the open lifestyle and become swingers, and the importance of trust, honesty, and communication as being central to all types of healthy relationships. They explore intimacy versus sex, differences between cheating in monogamous relationships versus ethical non-monogamy, and the ways in which they enjoy certain freedoms within the lifestyle. Mr. Mocha also delves into some of his personal experiences of himself and Mrs. Mocha, who are an interracial couple, being on the receiving end of racism and discrimination both within and outside of the swinging lifestyle. He offers insight and perspective for those having trouble understanding the Black Lives Matter movement and systemic racism, giving actionable advice to create meaningful change.

The Swinging Lifestyle: Opening Up

How can strap-ons help increase our pleasure during partnered sex? Host Lexi Sylver invites pleasure expert Luna Matatas to discuss the fundamentals of strap-on sex and the fun things we can do with strap-ons. They cover anal sex, pegging, strap-on play for people with vulvas as well as for folks with prostates, and how to incorporate strap-ons to spice up threesomes and other kinds of group sex. Luna provides her expert tips on how to know what kinds of harnesses and dildos can be used for different kinds of play, along with beginner and professional tips for tops and bottoms to make strap-on sex extra pleasurable for everyone involved. They also discuss how to communicate strap-on fantasies with their partner(s) and how to check in during strap-on sex to ensure everyone’s pleasure. During Letters to Lexi, they also provide their advice for couples new to strap-on play, pegging and threesomes, including how a heterosexual couple can prepare to have a spicy threesome with a unicorn.

Encore: Strap-On Sex: Threesomes, Pegging and More

What do you actually know about the porn industry? Do you want to find out how adult entertainment is evolving to empower women? If you want to delve more deeply into how pornography can become more ethical and driven towards female pleasure, join me today with award-winning adult film stars and producers Jet Setting Jasmine and King Noire, co-owners of Royal Fetish Films, here to share the insight and experience they’ve acquired after over 20 years in the industry. Jasmine and King Noire are going to challenge what we think we know about porn, and what they’re doing differently to help steer the conversation about female sexuality in a more positive and empowering direction. We talk about how good porn can help create positive change within society about the importance of celebrating female pleasure, and the beauty of the female body. We cover important issues like combating sexism, racism and stereotypes within the porn industry, and what it means to create ethical porn.

Ethics and Empowerment in the Adult Industry

Why is talking about our sexual health such a taboo topic? How can we overcome feelings of shame and negative stigma surrounding sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)? Our host Lexi Sylver invites Courtney Brame, the founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), for an open and personal discussion about sexual health. Courtney shares his personal experience receiving a positive herpes diagnosis and why he was inspired to start his podcast to discuss others’ stories about their positive diagnoses. He explains how having an STI or an STD doesn’t mean the end of your sex life. Courtney suggests the best ways to inform yourself and who to talk to about your physical and mental health, good ways to disclose your positive status to your current partner(s) and potential new partner(s) and what to do when you get diagnosed. Lexi and Courtney answer Letters to Lexi and offer advice on safe sex, navigating disclosure and more.

STIs and STDs: Removing Shame and Stigma

What’s it like to be in a hotwifing relationship? Real-life hotwifing couple and podcasters Brenna and Brian of Front Porch Swingers join Lexi Sylver to get personal about their own relationship dynamic and experiences. Brenna divulges what it’s like to be a hotwife in their stag-vixen dynamic, and how she and Brian use sexting, photos, audio and videos to maintain their intimacy and spice up their relationship. They explore how they personally connect with potential and current lovers to keep it sexy and seductive, even during times of quarantine and self-isolation. They discuss how folks who are in open relationships can adapt to the current times while respecting social distancing. Brian and Brenna explain how they keep it safe when it comes to vetting, meeting and playing with new potential sex partners. They provide tips for other couples who are interested in hotwifing and swinging and other types of ethically non-monogamous relationships.

Encore: Hotwifing Tips and Tricks

Hotwifing Tips and Tricks

Are you interested in non-monogamous relationships? Are you curious about the best ways to navigate your first steps into the sexy world of consensual non-monogamy (also known as ethical non-monogamy)? 

Join me today with Dr. Liz Powell, licensed psychologist specializing in non-traditional relationships, and author of the book Building Open Relationships.

We’re going to explore different kinds of non-monogamous relationships and what each of those look like; how to develop and maintain healthy and ethical non-monogamy with your partner or partners, and the best communication tips to keep prevent and resolve potential conflict. 

Dr. Liz Powell is also going to talk about how to be authentic with your partner(s) or your potential new partner(s) as you let them know your interest in non-monogamy, as well as how to best frame those conversations to evoke a more positive reaction from them, and what to do if your partner isn’t as interested in the concept of non-monogamy as you are.

Building Ethically Non-Monogamous Relationships

What is it really like to be in an open relationship and the swinging lifestyle? How can you start to explore the lifestyle and have pleasurable experiences with your partner while maintaining a healthy relationship? Host Lexi Sylver is joined by lifestyle experts John and Jackie Melfi of Openlove 101, who were recently interviewed by CNN’s Lisa Ling for an episode of “This is Life”. They delve into John and Jackie’s relationship and their first swinging experience, as well as what being in the lifestyle means to them. They debunk myths about the lifestyle when it comes to who takes the lead, and prove that the swinging lifestyle is not all about sex. Jackie and Lexi talk about the sexual empowerment that women feel in the lifestyle. John and Jackie give advice for building healthy open relationships, how newbies to the lifestyle can talk to their partner before going to a swinger’s club for the first time, how to manage expectations, and what to do when swinging goes wrong.

SDC Presents: Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver

SDC Presents: Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver

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