Sex is inherently vulnerable, which is partly why it’s so hot. But how do you take the extremely vulnerable – even awkward – step of telling a partner something sensitive? Maybe their breath is bad. Maybe you’re bored with the sex itself. Or maybe you're afraid to tell a partner you’ve fallen in love with them. On today’s episode, I’m helping listeners find the right words for these sensitive moments. What happens when you don’t feel anything during penetration? Or your partner’s afraid to tell you they have a small penis? How about when you’re into something kinky, tried it out virtually, and got caught? And finally, when you disagree on what makes good sex, is that a deal breaker? All this and more on today’s sexual feedback show. Show Notes:The 7 Secrets of Making OutHow to Have the Sexiest Spring EverPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureSmartMouthPenuma.com/Podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How Do I Tell My Partner…?

Have you ever been to a sex party? Are you curious about what goes down in one, and if it’s something you’d like to explore? Are they held in dungeons? Upscale clubs? Someone’s house? There’s a lot more interest in sex parties lately, so on today’s episode, I’m talking sex parties 101. I’ll go over the various types of parties out there, how to find them and specific sex events you might be interested in, sex party etiquette, what you can expect when you walk in the door, how to interact with fellow attendees, and of course…what to wear. Show Notes:The 7 Secrets of Making OutHow to Have the Sexiest Spring EverPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureFetLifeFeeld#OpenKinky Rabbit ClubMorgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex Party 101

The vagina is a beautiful place. But from orgasms to vaginismus, do you know your way around a vagina and how to properly care for it? Whether you want to maximize a vulva owner’s pleasure or improve your own vaginal health, this episode is for you. We’ll start with the internal clitoral network: I’ll talk about how recent our scientific knowledge of the clitoris is. Later I'll discuss clitoral orgasms versus G-spot orgasms -- which one’s stronger, and what do they feel like? My listeners also bring me questions about vaginas and sex: is a clitoral piercing painful? Will it affect your sexual sensations? And when sex is painful, how can you reclaim your sexuality? All this and more on today’s vagina episode.Show Notes:Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Singles’ Survival Kit6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better SexPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureArticle: Where is the Clitoris?Je Joue’s New Bullet Vibrators & Endometriosis Collection (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF everything)Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50)This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Vagina Episode

Want to give 10/10 pleasure to a penis? Whether you’re giving or receiving oral sex to a penis, this episode is for you. From where to start as an absolute beginner, to upgrading your oral sex game, this is a comprehensive episode on the art of the blowjob. First, we’ll map the penis anatomy so you know what pleasure points you’re dealing with. Next, I’ll teach you techniques to build anticipation, tease, and make your oral sex that much more memorable: eye contact, how to use your hands, and the best lube for the job. We’ll also get into sensation play, testicle and perineum stimulation, and if swallowing or deep-throating is in the cards for you. (It’s totally OK if not.) Plus, I’ve got tips for dealing with anxiety when you’re the receiver. Don’t blow this episode off: your oral sex mastery starts now.  Show Notes:6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better SexPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWhen it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic WandPodcast: Everybody Loves OralArticle: 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a VulvaArticle: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin MethodArticle: How to Give a Better BlowjobPromescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Best Of: Best Blowjob Ever

Have you ever been into something so strongly, you couldn’t stop fantasizing about it? Maybe it’s getting spanked or tied up, to name a couple common turn-ons. Whatever your turn-on is, does it arouse you so much that you just have to make it a reality? Or are you apprehensive to take your fantasy IRL? On today’s episode, I’m taking your calls on kinks, fetishes, and everything in between. I’ll teach you how to introduce your fantasy to a partner, especially if you’re turned on by something very specific. From spandex to group sex, squirting to infantilization, I’ll help you understand the difference between a kink and a fetish, how to safely explore your options, and how to communicate your desires to a partner. All this and more on today’s turn-on show!Show Notes:Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Sexy Survival KitPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureOkay, What’s Really the Difference Between Kinks and Fetishes?Yes No Maybe List, Tips for Better Communication & Other GuidesFirmTech Rings (code EMILY20 for 20% off sitewide)FetLifeKasidieLELO SORAYA Wave (code EMILY for 25% off all products)This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Squirting, Spandex & Kinks

Let’s talk about porn, people. In my opinion, porn isn’t inherently good or bad – it’s your relationship to it that matters. Sexy media can be used for inspiration, education, even healthy arousal, but you can also become dependent on it for sexual stimulation and have a negative impact on you or your relationship in the process. So on today’s show, I’m taking your porn calls to help you find a healthy balance. She’s worried her boyfriend depends on porn for arousal and isn’t attracted to her anymore: what now? He’s married and wants to watch porn with his wife, how should he broach the subject? Finally, her father was a porn addict and she’s worried her boyfriend might be too – I give her communication tips to ease the anxiety. All this and more on today’s porn show!Show Notes:How Do I Prep For Sex?PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWhen it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic WandArticle: So, Where’s the Porn for Women?ScarleteenXConfessions.comThis episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Porn & Your Sex Life

I’m getting more questions than ever about non-monogamous relationships, but is it right for you? Today I’m taking your calls about what it takes to navigate different kinds of relationships, and how our listeners' failures and success stories can help those considering opening up. When you’re long-distance, is an open arrangement actually ideal? Or is the relationship itself a distraction from the people right in front of you? When you’re married monogamously, but one of you starts flirting with someone else, is an open marriage the right move, or not so much? And when you’re in a heterosexual relationship, but want to explore your bisexuality, is bringing in a same-sex third a healthy fix? All this and more on today’s episode.Show Notes:How Do I Prep For Sex?PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureHow Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship?What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship? OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50Yes No Maybe List & Other GuidesPromescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are We All A Little Non-Monogamous?

While I believe orgasms are not the end goal of sex, who can blame themselves for wanting one? Whether you’re having partnered or solo sex, orgasms have incredible health benefits: boosted levels of estrogen and collagen, a huge dose of endorphins and oxytocin, better sleep and immunity. But namely? You want an orgasm because it feels good. That’s why on today’s show, I’m helping you reach climax. How can you still have numerous, deep orgasms? When you love anal play, but haven’t had an anal orgasm quite yet, how can you make it happen? And can all vulva-owners really have multiple orgasms? Find out all this and more on today’s orgasm show. Show Notes:Penis Issues & Innovations with Dr. KarpmanPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasurePromescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Moregasms For All

What’s holding you back from your best sex? Are you worried you’ll be judged? Is emotional trauma rearing its ugly head? Or maybe you just want to have anal without hurting yourself! The truth is, we’ve all got a pleasure block or two, so on today’s show I’m taking your calls to move past them. When you’re recovering from an epic ghosting, how do you move on with your confidence intact? I offer tips for releasing the pain, and setting intentions for a future partner. When you’re nervous about neighbors hearing you have sex, how can you relax into your body? And finally, when your partner’s looks haven’t changed, but you’re suddenly wondering whether you’re attracted to them, is it really about their appearance? I’ll be unpacking these and many more roadblocks to the pleasure you deserve.Show Notes:Penis Issues & Innovations with Dr. KarpmanPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureSmartMouthPenuma.com/PodcastEpisode: Does Size Matter? w/ Dr. Karpman Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Unblock Your Sex Life

Exploration is sexy. You don’t have to know everything about sex to be hot in bed, but if you’re curious? That’ll blow their mind. So let’s look at some less talked-about pleasure acts and how you can incorporate them into your sex life. From nipples to the labia, what unexplored erogenous zones and tools can enhance your orgasms? When your partner’s got a large penis, how do you explore anal without hurting yourself? Plus, how do you find friends and community when you’ve just entered the BDSM lifestyle? And how do you maximize your partner’s pleasure? All this and more on today’s pleasure points show.Show Notes:How to Have Great Sex During Perimenopause, Menopause and BeyondPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure#openFetLifeOdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic WandJe Joue (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off)Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)Kivin Method: 5 Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Secret Pleasure Points

Insecurities around our bodies can make sex and pleasure more difficult to enjoy, especially when it comes to our more intimate parts. And one body part I always get asked about is the penis, from people with penises and those sleeping with them. That’s why I’m bringing in board-certified urologist, Sex With Emily regular, and my friend, Dr. Edward Karpman to answer all your questions about the penis. We’ll answer questions from delayed ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, to yes, penis size. All this and more in today’s episode.Show Notes:Sex Toys for Penis Owners: A GuidePRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasurePenuma.com/PodcastMore Dr. Karpman: Healthy-Male.comThis episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does Size Matter? w/ Dr. Karpman

Here’s the truth about getting turned on. It’s a thousand times easier to feel sexual with others, if you’re already in the habit of getting sexual with yourself. But what does that look like? On today’s show, I’m talking sexy self-care practices that I recommend to everyone of every age, every gender, every relationship status. We’ll go over sensory engagement, breath work and solo sex techniques and toys, so you can keep your pilot light lit and feel erotic all the time. Plus, I take your questions: the difference between internal and external orgasms, arousal ideas for vulva-owners, how to approach sex with a new partner when you’ve been out of the game for a while, and much more.Show Notes:Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day5 Last-Minute, Ultra-Sexy Valentine’s IdeasPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureHigherDOSE Sauna BlanketBreathing App: Apple | Google PlayJe Joue: Vita | Amour | Duet (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF)When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic WandPromescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)BellesaTryQuinnXConfessions.com&JaneThis episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why Don’t I Ever Want Sex?

It’s almost Valentine’s Day, but listen. Whether you’re a romantic or a cynic, there’s one thing we can all benefit from on this holiday. No, not more candy message hearts. I’m talking actual knowledge, on how to build sexual tension on Valentine’s Day and truly, any day. So on today’s episode, I’m talking sexts, scents, and sex toys to create an erotic vibe with your partner all day long. Next, I’ll be answering all your questions to create amazing Valentine’s Sex, including body-positive sex positions, how to have sex when one or both of you is tired, and how to lean into your sub side when you’ve been domming for decades.Show Notes:3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent & Sexual AttractivenessPRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureHiNote AppEye Of Love (code EMILY for 15% off sitewide)SmartMouthLELO SORAYA Wave (code EMILY for 25% off all products)Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy?This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Make Every Day Valentine’s Day

Do you dress for the occasion? And by “occasion,” I mean sex. Because wearing things that make you feel hot can make a huge difference. That’s what we’re talking about today: listening to your feelings, and dressing or undressing your way toward your sexual desires. In this Best Of episode, I’m talking leather, lingerie, and how to wear your sexual fantasies on your sleeve. Or your thigh highs. Next, we talk DDLG, or Daddy Dom Little Girl, a kink that might be exactly what you’re looking for…but only with the right boundaries. Finally, I get into green flags and red flags with your partner, and how to spot toxic traits before you’re in too deep.Show Notes:3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent and Sexual AttractivenessPromescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWhen it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic WandArticle: How to Start a DDLG DynamicArticle: The Truth About DDLG As Told by a LittleFleur Du Mal x Sex With Emily Bundle (code FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order)This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Best Of: Just a Little Kinky

A stale sex life can cost us much more than our orgasms. When we stop physically connecting with our partners, we grow resentful, distrustful and uninvested in our relationship’s future. And while it’s common for sex with the same person to become monotonous over time, relationships need intimacy to survive. That’s why today’s show is all about spicing up your sex life. From a partner who doesn’t want to open up about their sexual preferences, to growing tired of the same old routine - I offer ideas from gamifying your sexual communication to taking penetration off the table. We’ll also hear plenty of real-life success stories of couples reviving their intimacy, which I know will inspire you to do the same. If it’s better sex that you and your partner want, there’s hope on the horizon. Show Notes:Sex Drive Boosting WorkoutsGifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50Yes No Maybe List, Mutual Masturbation Guide, & MoreLELO SONA 2 Cruise (code EMILY for 25% off all products)Lube Shooter 4-Piece Set Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex Life Hacks You Won’t Regret

Why are there so many hang ups around oral sex? For starters, many of us don’t know how to give it, or receive it. So how do we bring amazing, orgasm-inducing oral into our sex lives? Today’s episode is a great place to start. I answer your questions on oral upgrades, so you can blow more than just their mind – and get the pleasure you deserve. When you’re new to sex, how do you coach a partner to give you great oral? Or how about when you go down on your partner, but they refuse to kiss you afterwards – should you say something? And what if your penis-owning partner can’t finish…no matter how good your oral game is? I’ll also discuss how porn can distort what we think is good oral sex, so you can take what you need from the screen and leave the rest to your IRL abilities.Show Notes:Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023LELO TOR 2 (code EMILY for 25% off all products)Podcast: Sex Toys for Penis OwnersArticle: Where is the Clitoris?Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oral Sex Essentials

Ever stumbled across a surprise fantasy? Something you didn’t realize turned you on…but here you are. It’s super hot, and now, you can’t stop thinking about it. Our sexual fantasies are here to help us understand ourselves better, so on today’s show I take your calls on sexual fantasies, what they mean, and how to turn them into a reality. First, she masturbates in the bathroom when she knows her neighbors are home, within earshot. He loves nipple play on his body and watching his wife do it to herself. They’re dabbling in prostate play, so I provide step-by-step instructions for finger stimulation. She’s afraid of rejection, but also fantasizes about it: how can she indulge this fantasy in a healthy way? All this and more on this revealing episode. Show Notes:Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023VUSH Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play)Yes No Maybe List & Other GuidesEMDRIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I High-Key Fantasize About…

We all have personal demons. Whether it’s anxiety in your relationship, dissatisfaction in your sex life, or something hurtful from the past that’s infecting your present. But how do we heal so that our sex drive can thrive? That’s what today’s episode is all about. I talk to callers about their sexual mental blocks, and how to move past them for a more empowered future. When outside circumstances create stress for your family, how can you still prioritize intimacy? When one partner is inhibited in bed, how can they learn to relax, and find their authentic sexual voice? And when you’ve been through the death of a loved one, how can you make room for a new relationship while honoring their memory? All this and more on today’s show. Show Notes:Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy?Yes No Maybe List & Other GuidesPodcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game-ChangerEMDRIAMore Dr. Amen: Instagram | TikTok | Twitter | WebsiteYour Brain Is Always Listening by Dr. Amen Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental Health = Sexual Wealth

Real talk: penis problems are more common than you think. But don’t let shame stop you from healing - both inside and out. Today, we’re normalizing the experience of penis challenges, and providing tools to help mend your member. She wants to end a relationship because he can’t keep it up - are there other issues at play beyond sexual incompatibility? Can erection issues from a sex-related injury be reversed? I offer some science-backed treatments to check out. Another penis-owner can only orgasm through solo sex, are trust issues to blame? We talk through some exercises to help get to orgasming with a partner. I’ll cover all this and more in this episode.Show Notes:When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic WandLELO Tor 2 (code EMILY for 25% off all products)Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)Boston Scientific treatment options for EDPRP Injections (John Hopkins Medical)Podcast: Best Of: Power to the Penis w/ Dr. Edward KarpmanSKYN CondomsOne Condoms “Find My Fit”Pjur Woman Aqua LubricantThis episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Penis Problems? Not Anymore

Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low self-worth can make it more difficult to get turned on with a partner. I offer strategies to one listener for restoring their self-love practice. Finally, eating your own semen: yay or nay? I explain why this is not only a totally normal question – but a totally acceptable practice.Show Notes:When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic WandJe Joue Ami 3 Step Kegel Training Set (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off)Article: The Ins And Outs of Ethical PornPodcast: Find Your Sexual Voice w/ Lake BellXConfessions.comTryQuinnThis episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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