We revisit our main framework of everything we talk about on Passionately Married.

What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage?

How do we approach the idea of growing up in marriage?

In the regular version we cover Dr David Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance.

On the Xtended version …

We explore the principles of passion and desire and how they play out in marriage and life. These are natural dynamics found in every marriage.

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Creating A Passionate Marriage #643

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On the Regular Version ...

We go back in time to revisit an episode with Dr Lori Brotto.

We to discuss how stress impacts life and sex - specifically sexual desire.

Learn more about Dr Brotto on her website – www.debunkingdesire.com also find her on social media using this #debunkingdesire

On the Xtended Version ...

Lori and I talk more in depth about her research and the myths surrounding sexual desire.

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Revisiting Stress and Desire | Dr Lori Brotto #642

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Chris Bruno joins me today as we dive into the world of re-storying, also could be termed restoring, our past and our lives.

What exactly does this idea mean?

Listen to find out.

Learn more about Chris and his work here - https://www.restorationproject.net/

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Re-Storying Our Lives | Chris Bruno #641

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On the Regular Version ...

In this week's episode Pam and I discuss warning signs of problems in marriage, and any relationships for that matter.

What are the various signs to watch out for in a relationship?

What if I see many of these in my marriage or life?

On the Xtended Version ...

We answer the question of what to do if some of the warning signs are visible in y life or marriage.

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Marriage Warning Signs #640

We revisit a past segment from the archives where we dive into the idea of what is permissible in marriage and sex?

This conversation is really less about one moral compass for all and more about the impacts of whatever it is you desire and seek in your marriage and sex life.

On the Xtended Version ...

What are the steps towards creating a great sex life?

We share 8 of them.

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8 Steps Towards Great Sex #639

Nellie Harden joins me as we have a conversation about marriage and family life and how in the midst of this time, important things get missed or lost. 

Learn more about Nellie on her site - https://www.nellieharden.com/

On the Xtended Version ...

I ask Nellie a question based on something mentioned in the regular version of the show ... Do parents really do the best they can?

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Doing The Best You Can | Nellie Harden #638

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On the Regular Version ...

An email from a husband who had an affair 5 years ago - and he and his wife haven't had sex since.

A question about how to talk about masturbation, wet dreams and pornography with adolescents.

On the Xtended Version ...

Trust. We all believe it is vital to relationships. But what if it's not what we think it is?

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Trust Isn’t What We Think #637

Today I welcome Cedric Bertelli as we talk about his work with emotional resolution. We are all familiar with emotions, we all have them. But Cedric's work focuses on the emotions that are triggered from things in our past, or fears, or worry.

How do you actually heal from them, or make them stop happening?

That's what we discuss. Learn more about Cedric here https://www.cedricbertelli.com/

On the Xtended Version ...

We keep the conversation about EmRes going - only turn it a little more personal.

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Emotional Resolution | Cedric Bertelli #636

An email came in wanting our take on Dr Doug Weiss' Intimacy Anorexia concept.

What exactly does this mean?

Are we each capable of this?

What do we do when see see this?

And, what if it's actually better viewed as cruelty?

On the Xtended Version ...

Author Kate Bowler has some helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else's grief or loss or struggle.

Words we all need to learn and use. Or stop using.

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Intimacy Anorexia Or Is It Cruelty? #635

Today I welcome guest Dean Pohlman, the founder of Man Flow Yoga. Dean shares his unique journey into the world of yoga, which started accidentally with a fitness-focused class that turned out to be more challenging and beneficial than he expected.

We discuss how yoga is often overlooked by men who prefer intense workouts for building muscle, but Dean emphasizes that yoga's slow, controlled movements, body awareness, and breathing also lead to functional strength and improved mobility. He highlights that yoga not only helps address weaknesses and build muscle differently from traditional weight training but also makes the body more efficient and less prone to joint strain during other workouts.

Learn more about Dean here - https://manflowyoga.com/

On the Xtended Version ...

Dean and I switch gears a little and focus more on the sexual wellness aspect of men and how yoga can assist in our experiences in sex. You won't want to miss this conversation.

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Men’s Sexual Wellness | Dean Pohlman #634

I'm joined today by Ellen Chute, LMSW as we talk through her metaphor of looking at family dynamics and systems ... where everyone sat in the car growing up.

Learn more about Ellen here - https://www.ellenychute.com/

On the Xtended Version ...

Ellen and I keep the conversation going, only the tables are turned and she uses my childhood as a look into how her metaphor plays out. In other words, let's get personal with my life. 

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What Drives You? | Ellen Chute #633

A regular guest joins me again today, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, and we dive into the relational dynamic of attraction and desire.

They happen to us, and we choose them.

They naturally ebb and flow.

And how do we get them back if they are lost?

Learn more about Jennifer here - https://www.finlayson-fife.com/

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Attraction and Desire | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #632

I'm joined today by JK Emezi, of Elevated Recovery and we have a frank conversation about high speed internet pornography.

Learn more about JK here - https://elevatedrecovery.org/

On the Xtended Version ...

JK and I get personal and talk about our journeys as well as the concept of betrayal trauma.

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High Speed Porn | JK Emezi #631

Pam and I get into a conversation about how we as married people can so often find ourselves over-reacting to our spouse's over-reaction.

Why does this happen?

What can we do to stop it?

On the Xtended Version ...

Author and modern-day monk, Jay Shetty has a 4 E formula for better relationships. We discuss what they are and if we agree with him.

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Over-Reaction To My Spouse’s Over-Reaction #630

Counselor and author Debra Fileta joins me today as we talk about triggers, trauma and the state of the world.

Learn more about Debra and find her books here - https://debrafileta.com/

On the Xtended Version ...

We continue the conversation and shift it towards what are some steps we can take to address triggers and traumas in our lives.

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Triggers | Debra Fileta #629

Pam and I use an email from a wife who is in a sexless marriage, going on 20 years now, and she wants to know if there is anything she can do, but divorce is not an option.

We answer her questions, then expand into some different topics that are at play in every marriage.

On the Xtended Version ...

We do a deeper look at the dynamic of over-functioning and under-functioning.

Which one are you?

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Divorce Is Not An Option, Or Is It? #628

Dr Michael Sytsma joins me again as we dive into the idea of how there is something much deeper going on during sex. There is a higher view to take.

Learn more about Dr Sytsma here - https://intimatemarriage.org/bim-team/mike-sytsma/

On the Xtended Version ...

I continue the conversation with Michael about Dr Schnarch's idea of eyes-open-sex.

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A Higher View | Dr Michael Sytsma #627

Chandler and Jade Rogers join the show today as they share their story of pornography struggle, its impact on their relationship and their journey towards healing.

Check out the app Chandler created to help others on this journey as well - Relay

On the Xtended Version ...

Pam and I share our story and journey with the struggle and impact of pornography on our marriage and life.

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You Need A Tribe | Chandler and Jade Rogers #626

This week Pam and I are looking back at what we've learned after 30 years of marriage.

Come look back with us.

On the Xtended Version ...

A surprisingly high number of people will admit to snooping on their spouse's phone or devices.

So what's the motivation and results of this path?

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Takeaways From 30 Years Of Marriage #625

This week Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of hormones and menopause. If you are a woman - you won't want to miss this episode.

Learn more about Dr Kelly here - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/

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