The holidays are just around the corner, and for some, it unfortunately brings in anxiety instead of excitement. LGBTQ Activist and Registered Nurse, Miss J gets us ready for those awkward holiday dinners with family. In this episode, she eloquently educates us on the importance of bringing one simple question into your normal conversations: “What are your pronouns?” An inspiration to all, she shares her story on how she’s making waves and boldly using her platform to further educate, protect, and humanize those who may identify as non-binary, and how you can do the same.Show Notes:https://www.instagram.com/campaignproper/Ask Me About My Pronouns T-Shirthttps://www.instagram.com/j.cagz/Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 14: Non-Binary Star with Miss J. Cagahandan

A civilian, a military wife, and a military service member come together to shoot the shit. Special guest and Navy Corpsman, Aileen Coloma, answers questions that Lanie and Terri have in regards to her experience being a female in a male dominant world. The discussion ranges from dealing with mansplaining to how a Navy ship nearly ran out of feminine products for their female service members. James Brown may say, “It’s a Man’s Man’s Man’s World,” but in this episode, it’s proven fact that the military “wouldn't be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl.”Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 13: Shooting the Sh*t with Aileen Coloma

You’re in for a blend of emotions. Our special guests, Alexis and Flo, join us as they give us the inside scoop on their dark and interesting time serving as nuns in a convent. It’s our most interesting episode, filled with shock, revelations, healing, laughter in times of tragedy, and their personal journeys through escaping a religious life that only brought them darkness. Their story is Nun of your business unless you’re tuning into Shameless Dialogues.Show Notes:https://www.onlinepsychologydegree.info/what-to-know-about-the-psychology-of-cults/http://cultresearch.org/help/characteristics-associated-with-cults/Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 12: Nun of Your Business with Alexis Agsaulio & Florence Pidlaoan

October is the new June. And by that we mean, October is the newest popular month for tying the knot. With it being Filipino American History Month, we thought it would be a perfect time to discuss Modern Filipino American Weddings and all the elaborate moving parts that come with it. Lanie and Terri finish a whole bottle of wine as they reminisce about their own unique approaches to their wedding days, share historical facts to some of the traditions, chismis about a camera-happy auntie, and poke fun at some of the superstitions that might’ve given one of them bad luck in their marriage. If you’re currently planning your wedding, this one will make you cackle your way through all that wedding stress!Show Notes:[7:00] How we relate to the wedding industry[10:34] Definition of Modern Filipino American Wedding[11:20] Lanie’s Wedding Day[14:00] Terri’s Wedding Day[15:55] A Breakdown of Filipino Wedding Traditions[22:25] The Barong Tagalog[25:45] The Filipiniana Terno Dress[30:58] A+ in Filipino American History thanks to Jo Koy[35:30] Chismimosa[40:19] OA FIlipino Superstitions[50:20] Ballin’ on a Budget TipsFilAm Fest 2019Barong TagalogFilipiniana Terno Dresshttps://www.vintato.com/Jo Koy: Comin’ in HotPeerspaceHosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 11: Crazy Rich Asians on a Budget

Tissue on deck, and deep breathes in and out. We’re hitting the double digits with a very heavy topic for Episode 10 and discussing how to deal with your triggers when your triggers are your immediate family. Our special guest, Karen Castro, joins us as she walks us through how she personally deals with her triggers, and how identifying these triggers can become very empowering. She educates us on group therapy, one-on-one therapy, and cognitive behavioral therapy. This is our most revealing episode, with round table talks about our own triggers, big and small, past traumas such as physical and sexual abuse, and how the practice of daily affirmations can be healing for everyone.Show Notes:[2:46] Introducing Karen Castro[5:00] Definition of “Trigger” in correlation to mental health.[15:57] Seeking therapy[22:56] Insurance and therapy, and how that can stint your mental health progress[24:51] The power of identifying and knowing how to handle your triggers[26:41] Dog therapy[28:37] Words of AffirmationHosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriGuest: Karen Castro @karenjoielife @karenjoielifeIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 10: Trigger Warning with Karen Castro

Sometimes networking could have a bad reputation for a gathering of people with ulterior motives. Trust us, we feel ya! But in this episode, Your Two Favorite Coworkers debunk those myths by keeping it real as they walk you through how they personally go about the intimidating task of networking, because it’s actually not as intimidating as you may think. Lanie and Terri also discuss the transition from social media to in-person networking, and how the new-age of “finding your tribe” is just like online dating.Show Notes:[2:42] You Belong Here SD, Brunch Crunch by @the_rocshop & @stacykeck[6:00] @checreates first public workshop at YBH, Brunch Crunch[6:34] “SD Calligrapher Collective’s” intimate meetups[10:30] Put yourself out there for that genuine support system[19:11] First networking experience[21:39] Styled Shoots = Networking[23:19] The Do’s and Don’ts of Social Media Networking[31:40] How to find Networking Events that are right for youYou Belong Here SD: Brunch Crunch:https://www.youbelongsd.comSD Calligrapher Collective FB Page:https://www.facebook.com/groups/123268004949893/?ref=bookmarksVoyage LA Magazine:http://voyagela.com/interview/meet-trailblazer-lanie-whitby/Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 9: You Better (Net)WERK

Being dubbed the Flavor of the Summer, it’s safe to say that the rise of Ube is here! But before you take another bite into that Ube dessert, Terri and Lanie bring in Junemy Pantig of @gastronemy to give you the scoop on how deeply rooted this trendy flavor is with the Philippines. This episode is a round-table discussion on our thoughts of this nostalgic flavor going mainstream, with an eye-opening conversation of the difference between Ube and Taro, and in true Shameless Dialogues fashion, the trio also play a game where they discuss in great detail some of our favorite filipino dishes...or not.Show Notes:[1:15] Shoutout to Aileen Pearl[3:27] Introducing Junemy Pantig aka @gastronemy[6:25] It’s about time for the rise of Ube[7:21] Trader Joe’s Ube/Pronunciation[10:17] Magnolia Ube ice cream[12:05] Taro vs. Ube[15:44] How does one get into the foodie instagram game?[18:18] Ooh Bae or Ooh Nay Game[27:37] Gaya Gaya Miramar, California by Chef DJ Tangalin[28:40] Thoughts on Ube going Mainstream[30:50] Shameless Plug by Junemyhttps://www.traderjoes.com/fearless-flyer/article/4880http://ninongscafe.com/frequently-asked-questions-are-ube-and-taro-different/https://www.gayagayasd.com/https://4thedistrict.com/https://snoicesd.com/https://www.madeinparadisehills.com/Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriGuest Host: Junemy Pantig @gastronemyIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 8: Ube Be Baby with Junemy Pantig

We know you guys were expecting a FULL episode today, but LIFE HAPPENS. So this is just a quick update on what's been going on in the lives of Lanie & Terri. We'll be back to our regular scheduled program 2 Tuesdays from now. Stay Tuned!Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

UPDATE: Life Happens

Solo-preneur...but not really. This episode is all about the Unsung Heroes to your work-from-home-hustle. When you run a business at home, you’re more than likely sharing that home with a roommate, a family member, and for most entrepreneurs, it’s their spouse, aka “Startup Spouses.” This is the complete opposite of a “trophy wife,” in the sense that they naturally become your clutch to all things business, assisting you in areas where you fall short, and helping you juggle it all. Lanie and Terri interview their husbands, Allen and Jan, to gain perspective on what it’s like to be in their shoes. Things get crazy during the segment, “Chismimosas,” as they share some hilarious moments being in their shoes. Let the games begin!Show Notes:[5:40] Introducing Jan and Allen[9:31] Q&A Startup Spouse[29:17] Chismimosa[31:23] Lanie’s workout[33:19] Terri’s ER visit[35:48] Design Trivia[49:56] Shameless Tip from Jan and AllenHosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 7: The Unsung Heroes - Life of a Startup Spouse

Lanie allows herself to become vulnerable as she discusses how she’s coping with the big change in her life. On April 22nd, 2019 Alejandro Constantino, Lanie’s Dad, unfortunately passed away. His untimely death occurred in the midst of Shameless Dialogues launching, and in this episode she walks us through the events that led her to seek grief counseling. We talk about the stigma of therapy in minorities, and highlight the insensitive remarks that are made in regards to seeking mental health treatment, in the segment we call, “OK OA.” This one is just a little bit of LOLs, but a topic we’d like to normalize in everyday conversation.Show Notes:[10:11] Lanie’s turning point leading to the opportunity to seek counseling[11:38] “OK OA” Segment[15:04] The Stigma within Minorities to seek Mental Health Treatment and The Reasons Why[18:03] Why more POC are needed in the Mental Healthcare Industry[20:02] The Therapy Generation and Instagram Therapist[22:52] Terri shares the normality in therapy[28:50] “The Farewell” movieMentions@lightworkerslounge instagram post8 Reasons Minorities Receive Less Mental Health Treatment By Tanya St. JohnMillennials Are the Therapy Generation by Peggy DrexlerInstagram Therapists Are The New Instagram Poets by Sophia June“The Farewell” Movie, Written and Directed by Lulu Wang Starring AwkwafinaInstagram Therapists To Follow@the.holistic.psychologist@lisaoliveratherapy@drcassidyHosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 6: The Therapy Generation

Work-Wife, Work-Husband. Whatever your situation is, these terms weren’t created for no reason. Collaborating in the work environment is just the same as being in a relationship. In this episode, we discuss how we, as two separate business owners, laniletter.com and madebyterri.com managed to team up together to create Shameless Dialogues. We hilariously go through a silly list of the “Make It and Break Its” of collaborating and also introduce our new segment, “Hall of Shame.” We’re revealing some pretty crazy facts in this one!Show Notes:[4:00] “The Talk”[9:37] Owning your strengths and weaknesses[14:12] “Make It or Break It”[24:47] “The Hall of Shame”Mentions:Ed Sheeran https://www.edsheeran.comLani Letter http://www.laniletter.com/Made By Terri http://madebyterri.com/Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 5: Stop, Collaborate, & Listen

Part-time jobs, full-time jobs, side-hustles…what’s the difference? Is there a difference? This episode breaks down the fine line between part-time and side-hustle. We go full force with no shame on sharing our unpopular opinion of creative entrepreneurs going back to a 9 to 5 job. We also share our current money making situations, and hilariously reminiscence on our first jobs and odd jobs. You’re going to want to listen to this one because it’s filled with a whole lotta LOLs!Show Notes:[1:50] Defining Side-Hustle and looking at the difference between Part-Time vs. Side-Hustle via wonolo.com blog post.[3:04] Lanie’s double life at a Part-Time and Side-Hustle money making situation[3:51] Terri’s Full-Time Side-Hustle money making situation, and her curiosity towards a 9 to 5 job.[7:55] the negativity towards a creative entrepreneur wanting to go back to a 9 to 5 job and our unpopular opinion on it[10:28] we always want what we can’t have, like working from home means you can poop in peace, but you also are never able to “clock-out.”[14:00] Art School Confidential and Daniel Clowes[17:40] Terri’s first job failure at frosting buns, but scoring a job with a hot boy[21:00] Lanie’s first and only day on the job with burgers and a bathroom[24:23] Odd Jobs = Terri and Lanie’s “hoe” jobs and Yoni Egg discussion[32:00] “And On That Note”Mentions:Wonolo Blog https://www.wonolo.com/blog/what-is-a-side-hustle/Art School Confidential https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0364955/Daniel Clowes https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_ClowesCinnabon https://www.cinnabon.com/Yoni Egg https://yoniegg.com/how-to-choose-your-first-yoni-egg/Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 4: Part-Time Lovers

Let’s talk about adulting and how it’s taken over our social lives. For every wrinkle gained, are you losing a friend in your circle? We put a microscope under typical friendship making habits and poke fun at how they only get worse as we age. This episode has us shamelessly discussing our failed attempts at making new friends in our late 20s and early 30s. Laughs will be shared, adulting knowledge will be gained, and Buddy Bands will be given! One of those Buddy Bands might even belong to you. So, if you’re a real Buddy of ours you probably should listen to this episode.Show Notes:[6:55] The moment when making friends became a challenge[9:17] Dissecting how “Adulting” is such a cock-blocker[12:11] Listing all the things that are considered “adulting”[13:08] Why Millennials have a hard time “adulting”[14:56] Marriage spiking your adulting behavior, and debating whether it’s the reason for the decline of new friendship[18:40] Buddy Band segment, shout out to Saved By The Bell’s AC Slater. We’re giving out Buddy Bands to our Buddies.Mentions:Pure Barre http://purebarre.com/Hula Halau https://www.facebook.com/OhanaHookipa/Buddy Bands https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vui605aoun8&list=ELlNLV4Y_DU2A&index=12&t=0sIt’s An Avocado! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wG2-y5Yf1OoHosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 3: Buddy Bands & Adulting

Modern Asian-Americans, we see you! Ali Wong and Randall Park, we love you! Non-Asian-Americans who want to gain more insight, we appreciate you! In this episode, we discuss Asian-American Representation and Netflix’s latest Rom-Com, “Always Be My Maybe.” We dissect a few of our favorite scenes from the movie, how it relates to our own Filipino upbringings, and we also get real introspective and dive deep into the symbolic meaning behind Asian comfort food.Show Notes:[3:40] Highlighting some of our favorite of scenes[7:45] Zarlitos Restaurant, ordering in Tagalog, and lack of Tagalog[9:59] Asian-Americans’ appreciation for Hip Hop Culture. Noting Dax Shepard’s podcast interview with Hasan Minaj.[16:58] Getting introspective with the deeper meaning behind Asian Comfort Food being the center of “Always Be My Maybe,” and how it relates to what’s going with the current climate of today’s modern API[20:26] Asian Food = The Panty-Dropper[23:05] Addressing the “Always Be My Maybe” Haters and discussing the harm of the term, Model-Minority[30:10] Sounding off on why Modern Asian-Americans needs more representationMentions:Netflix’s Always Be My Maybe https://www.netflix.com/title/80202874Zarlitos Filipino Restaurant: 505 E 8th St. National City, CA 91950Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard, May 6, 2019 Interview with Hasan Minaj https://armchairexpertpod.com/pods/hasan-minhajAdrianne Offril https://www.highlandernews.org/34882/asian-representation-media-rising-not-enough/Hosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries: shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 2: You Better Represent

It’s orientation day for you and the very first episode of Shameless Dialogues. Lanie and Terri aka your 2 new favorite co-workers share a little bit of who we are, and discuss why us regular “non-influencers” wanted to get on the mic and start a podcast of lunch break discussions. Nothing is off-limits and all are welcome!Show Notes:[1:15] Lanie & Terri’s Introduction[3:50] Why Lanie & Terri started Shameless Dialogues[5:01] Throwing low-key shade at Creative Biz Podcasts[5:50] Importance of Asian Pacific Islander Representation[8:09] A Run-Down of our Lunch Break DiscussionsHosted by: Lanie Whitby @laniletterdesigns, Terri Cao Lopez @madeby_terriIntro/Outro: DJ Dan One The King @danwhizleFollow us @shamelessdialoguesFor inquiries shamelessdialogues@gmail.com

EP 1: Allow Us To Introduce Ourselves

These two bet you’re tired of all the “creative entrepreneur, work/life balance” type of podcasts. Shameless Dialogues is your break from all of that. Small business owners, Lanie and Terri team up as they put the humor in your work/life woes, and give you a real break from the daily grind of balancing it all. Think of them as your two favorite coworkers who always hook it up with the best lumpia and a side of chismis (aka gossip) that will make you sip on your tea. Tune in and hang out every other week as they air the dirty laundry of small business ownership, the struggles of growing up as Filipino-Americans, and all the crazy things their favorite celebrities get themselves into. Nothing is off limits and all are welcome.Stay Social: @shamelessdialoguesSupport both Lanie & Terri’s Small Businesses by Following: @laniletterdesigns & @madeby_terri

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