What causes codependency? How can we become self aware and let go of it? We’re diving into this with therapist Bianca Grace!   Resources + Links:   Follow Bianca TikTok @thebiancagrace Instagram @thebiancagrace Listen to Bianca’s podcast -  The Emotional Warrior Website - https://biancagracetherapy.com/   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA    Show Notes: What causes codependency? Codependency is something I’ve dived into understanding personally and sharing here on the podcast! After seeing the amazing content she shares on TikTok I’m excited to chat with therapist Bianca Grace to unpack codependency! Bianca shares how both codependency and narcissism is on a spectrum, what triggers them, and how they manifest in relationships. Tune in as I ask Bianca some questions about my own childhood and codependency, how you can recognize and let go of it yourself. Make sure to check out Bianca on TikTok, and tag me on instagram with your ah ha moment around codependency, narcissism, and trauma dumping.   01:00 Meet therapist and codependency expert, Bianca Grace! 03:00 What is codependency? 04:30 Parenting behaviors that teach children codependency. 07:15 Is my personality type learned behavior or who I actually am? 12:15 How do I learn to let go of codependency? 16:30 Ways people use negative self-talk as a defence mechanism. 19:30 Is it typical for two codependent people to attach to each other? 25:00 How do you recognize what has triggered codependency? 31:15 What is narcissism? 37:30 What is trauma dumping?43:15 Recognizing when you are taking responsibility for issues that aren’t yours. 47:20 Are you valuing other people’s feelings before your own? 54:00 Ways to become more self aware. 56:40 Is there a process to dive into deeper thought?

Understanding Narcissism, Codependency and Trauma Dumping with Bianca Grace

What is projection? Are you checking in with your energy and recognizing the patterns you’ve absorbed from other people around you? I’m excited to share how I am being more intentional about this from childhood beliefs to the energy I’m surrounding myself with.   Resources + Links:   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA    Show Notes: Being empathetic and being able to read other peoples energy can be a superpower! On the other hand, it can be all too easy to absorb the energy and beliefs of others around us. Especially when we were kids growing up. I’m sharing some things I’ve absorbed and adopted from others around me from things I heard my mom say growing up, to overhearing conversations in a coffee shop that changed my mood. As I’ve become more aware of my own energy, and questioned what I actually think, I’ve been able to move forward only taking the things that serve me.     03:40 What is projection? 07:15 Adopting things from my mom that I’ve realized aren’t my own. 11:00 What energy or thoughts have you absorbed aren’t your own? 12:40 What is something someone else has said about you that stuck? 15:00 How to check in on your energy and how people around you are affecting it.  

Are You Absorbing The Patterns Of The People Around You And Taking Them On As Your Own?

In this episode, we talk about:   Kacia’s transition from a successful career that fell out of alignment, to creating EmpowerHer. The cocoon season she experienced in her marriage, and the lessons that came from it! How your personality will reveal your greatest gifts and your weaknesses to work on so you can double down on your own superpower.   Resources + Links:   Follow Kacia on Instagram | @kacia.ghetmiri Tune in to Kacia’s podcast EmpowerHer    Need an airbnb in Denver? Check out @peachouse.denver   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA    Show Notes: How do you recognize if you are codependent in a relationship? Especially when it’s a thriving one? I’m so excited to share this conversation with entrepreneur, podcaster, and real estate investor, Kacia Ghetmiri! Kacia is one of my good friends, and is such an open book as she navigates her journey! One of her superpowers is helping people get excited about life and build belief in themselves! In this episode, we talk about how our personality reveals our biggest gifts (which can be a double edge sword), and Kacia recognized she was codependent during a cocoon season in her marriage. Kacia is the ultimate hype woman, while also sharing genuinely what her journey looks like moving forward through ups and downs. If something stood out from this episode, tag us both on instagram so we care share more of that content on the podcast!   01:00 How we connect over the realness of cocoon season. 03:50 Going from a good, successful business, to making the leap to start a new business.  06:15 How did you recognize that your successful business wasn’t in alignment?  11:15 Have you always shared openly about your process as you go along? 13:40 What was your break free moment going from your network marketing business to EmpowerHer? 16:30 Advice for someone who knows they need to transition to what's next? 19:40 Are you currently in cocoon season, butterfly season, or both at the same time? 21:15 Why do you think your marriage went into cocoon season? 24:20 Do you think you always have had codependency in your relationship? 27:30 When did you realize you were experiencing codependency in your relationship? 31:00 How your personality is your biggest strength.  36:00 Supporting your spouse when you think differently. 41:15 Understanding marriage at a whole new level. 45:00 How do you move forward towards who you want to be? 48:40 Why is it so important to “be where your feet are”?

Is There Codependency in Your Marriage? with Kacia Ghetmiri

Do you have a way you look back and measure how you’ve performed on your goals? Tune in to hear how I graded myself on the goals I set in 2022!   Resources + Links:   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha Follow the podcast on Instagram |    Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA    Show Notes: Do you have a way you look back and measure how you’ve performed on your goals? My husband and I have refined our process each year for how we do our new year planning and goal setting. Part of that is reflecting on our goals from the previous year, and giving ourselves a letter grade for how we did in each  major area of our life that we set goals. Since success (and lack thereof) leaves clues, we learned so much from the areas we had solid plans and worked together on vs goals we left more up to chance. I’m excited to share what this process looks like for us, and how we’re using what we’ve learned to set ourselves up for success in 2023!   01:30 How we decided on our word for 2023. 04:20 How we grade ourselves on our goals for the year. 07:30 What I’ve learned from revisiting how we performed on our goals. 10:30 Do you have a goal around your faith this year? 12:15 Who do you have in your corner to stay accountable towards your goals? 15:40 What is your attitude towards your goals? 19:20 Have you reflected on the goals you set in 2022?

Looking Back At '22: Don't Make The Same Mistakes I Did!!

Trigger Warning: Pregnancy Loss    Cocoon season is an opportunity to grow and evolve, but how do you actually have your break free moment to move towards what's next? Jess DeRose is sharing two cocoon seasons and what triggered her own break free moments!   Resources + Links:   Follow Jess on Instagram | @iamjessicaderose Tune in to Jess’s podcast  Digital Business Evolution   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA    Show Notes: How do you actually break free from cocoon season? I can’t think of a better guest to share what that process has looked like for her. Today’s guest is a teacher turned 7-figure business owner, Founder of Digital Business Evolution, has created 8 millionaires through her teaching and programs, my dear friend, Jess DeRose! She has accomplished so much in business, and what I love about her is how she is always on her own journey of growth and evolution. In this episode, Jess shares not one, but two cocoon seasons she has navigated recently and how she broke free into her current butterfly season! Jess openly shares her most recent cocoon season of dissociation and a traumatic pregnancy loss that, within navigating grief, has brought so much clarity. This is an episode about loss, healing, and breaking free from past ways of thinking to thrive in butterfly season!   02:00 Meet the incredible Jess DeRose! (Formerly known as Jess Glazer!) 05:00 Finding out that I needed to go into emergency surgery. 08:40 How did you navigate running your business and a big move right after your loss? 11:20 The healing experience Jess had and the advice to remove her earrings. 18:15 The break free moment that started with a piercing. 29:30 How did you feel when the stitches and earring came out? 34:15 How did you learn the emotional regulation that you have? 37:00 Is there anything you wish you would have told yourself when you were in the thick of grief? 40:00 Looking back on cocoon season, and what needed to happen to break free. 44:15 What triggered your ego death? 47:30 The tools Jess has used to do the work and thrive in butterfly season! 50:00 What was your break free moment as you left New York City to do RV life full time?  

Evolving through Loss and Ego Death with Jess DeRose

When it comes to money, do you avoid the balance in your bank account, or check it constantly? In this episode, Erin Porter is here to break down attachment styles, including your relationship with money!   Resources + Links:   Healing Your Attachment Style with Money - FREE Training! Day 1 -  https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/share/dHqjodawcMcl2V32Gug4EgD06vFze7yoGgU9BjpqBhn7BiaGRgb9xgmMnWtkB2PN.Ei2kkeyRC-_GSwSm  Passcode: N2MZ2&U+  Day 2 -  https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/share/3EN3BXUHtqVp0f8ufI7KIX95LzbGUTL4otvjxp8BHcgwBKd597m1cSYqyPLs3mxL.mkdRRLpeGktTS85a  Passcode: $4u2HgN.   Follow Erin on Instagram | @erinnicolecoaching https://www.instagram.com/erinnicolecoaching/?hl=en   Check out Erin’s Book: Burnout to Breakthrough  https://erinnicolecoaching.mykajabi.com/breakthrough   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA    Show Notes: Do you know your money attachment style? Whether you do or don’t, this episode is full of ways to understand yourself on a deeper level in your relationships, including the relationship you have with money! I’m excited to have speaker, author, and business energetics mentor, Erin Porter on the podcast! Erin has helped me heal and understand attachment styles on a whole new level, and she’s here to break down the different attachment styles and how to heal so you can replace trauma responses with healthy coping skills. We all have a money story that was given to us when we were growing up. If you don’t intentionally change that story and evaluate whether it’s serving you or not, you’ll find yourself stuck in the same cycle over and over again. Tune in and let us know which of these money attachment styles you resonate with!   01:20 What are “energetics” and how do they impact you in relationships and business? 05:00 How do the different attachment styles impact your finances? 07:50 What does rejection look like when it comes to money? 11:40 Things you can do to recognize your attachment style. 15:15 The importance of creating a plan based on whether you’re anxious or avoidant. 17:00 How do you know you’ve healed your anxious or avoidant attachment? 22:15 What can we do to check in with our bodies and needs? 25:40 Determining the difference between intuition and trauma. 30:00 How do you create new and healthier ways to cope? 34:00 Ways to regulate your nervous system.

How to Understand Your Money Attachment Style with Erin Porter

In this episode, we talk about:   What it means to focus on High Vibes Only, and what I do each day to live it! How HVO impacts every aspect of your life, opens you up to more opportunities and shortens the amount of time you’re in cocoon season!   Resources + Links:   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA    Show Notes: Some people might call it thinking positive, some may call it optimism, for me I want to live a life that is High Vibes Only (aka HVO). Of course you’ll face challenges and not feel happy every moment of every day, but the energy you choose to embody impacts every single aspect of your life! Choosing to live HVO will also drastically change the amount of time you spend in your cocoon seasons. Tune in as I share what High Vibes Only means to me, and the practices I have in place to live it and make it part of my identity. I’d love to hear if you have your own practices to live HVO, or if you have some that come to mind as you listen to this episode! Tag me on instagram so I can thank you and see how YOU are living HVO!   00:40 What High Vibes Only means to me. (aka HVO) 03:30 How would I feel if God had more for me, but I wasn’t living it? 06:15 What is your baseline or default mood? 08:15 What can you do to feel good despite outside factors? 11:00 The power of knowing what puts you in a High Vibe mood throughout the day. 13:30 How to create your core value statement and incorporate it into your day. 16:40 How I practice HVO in my daily life. 20:00 Ways I handle when other people around me aren’t living HVO.

#HVO: High Vibes Only - How to Develop a Sensitivity to Negativity!

My bestie Lindsey Schwartz is on the podcast, and we’re diving into ways to make your cocoon season (aka your purgatory) quicker and less shitty.  Lindsey also is sharing some fun things she has coming next!   Resources + Links: Text COMMUNITY to 602-536-7829 to plug into the Powerhouse Women community    Follow Lindsey on Instagram | @llindseyschwartz Follow Powerhouse Women on Instagram | @powerhouse_women   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA   Show Notes: What if I told you there was a way to navigate cocoon seasons in a way that didn’t feel like a total mess? In this episode, I’m joined by my bestie who was there to help me out of my cocoon season, Lindsey Schwartz! Those cocoon seasons where you’re going deep, and processing, and growing…sure, is going to be uncomfortable. The thing is we often stay in that place longer than we need to and make it a messier process for ourselves than it needs to be. Lindsey has built such an incredible business and community, and that comes with the experience of cycling through cocoon and butterfly seasons over and over again. Check out this episode as she shares what has worked for her, how to show up authentically, and make your cocoon season (aka purgatory) pretty!   01:15 What does it mean to make your purgatory pretty? 06:00 How have you moved forward and built self belief when others couldn’t see your vision? 10:30 The power of being authentic in your journey while owning your confidence. 16:20 How do you decide what to share authentically while you’re in the thick of it? 21:30 How do you recognize when it’s time to take action and get out of a cocoon season? 26:15 WHO do you need in your corner to support you and call you UP to the next level? 29:00 What new things do you have coming up next for you? 33:00 Things Lindsey has done to build the Powerhouse community to what it is today? 37:15 How can we learn more about your upcoming Community Builders Mastermind?

Here's How to Make Your Purgatory Pretty with Lindsey Schwartz

She straight up called me out and told me I was codependent, and it was such a life altering moment for me! I’m excited to introduce you to my best friend, Lizy Hoeffer, and the lessons we’ve both learned around codependence, having honest conversations and creating our identity statements!   Resources + Links:   Follow Lizy on Instagram | @lizyhoeffer Check our Lizy’s YouTube Channel |  @lizyhoeffer   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA   Show Notes: Find yourself a friend that will call you out and call you UP! I’m excited to introduce you to one of my very favorite people, Lizy Hoeffer! She is a mom, a genius businesswoman, and someone I can count on giving me the best, most honest advice! One of my first memories of Lizy was when she called me out for being codependent and that conversation honestly changed my life! In this episode, we talk about codependency, how we’ve both struggled with it and what our journey’s have looked like letting go of external validation and people pleasing to becoming confident in our true identity. Lizy and I both share examples of what codependency has looked like for us, and how we show up now in our conversations and relationships with others. Lizy shares a way to create your own identity statement and we’d love to hear yours once you do the exercise in this episode! Tag us on Instagram with your identity statement or DM us what your experience was like creating it!   01:00 That time I met my future best friend and she called me out for being codependent. 04:15 What has influenced you to be so open and honest in conversations? 07:30 How does your value of honesty show up as a friend and leader of your business? 10:30 Why do you think most people don’t speak up and say exactly what they think? 12:15 Advice for having more honest conversations without worrying about what people think. 16:00 Do you feel like you created “business Lizy” to show up the way you wanted to? 17:20 What did codependency look like for you at work? 20:30 Stripping away old identities and the addiction of operating from fear. 24:30 What if you decided who you wanted to be and what you wanted to create when you’re faced with fear of the unknown? 27:00 How to create an identity statement. 31:30 What are you excited about right now and how can we connect with you?  

Codependency & Telling the Truth with Lizy Hoeffer

Over the years I’ve developed a way to create a vision and goals that have strategy behind them! Let’s set goals that have an actionable plan to accomplish them and have your best year yet!   Resources + Links:   Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/ Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional   Watch the podcast on Youtube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA   Show Notes: This is not your mother’s scrapbook vision board! I mean, that’s great and all, but over the years I’ve found a way to create a vision and goals for myself that are actionable and have real strategy behind them! In this episode, we’re taking that concept of a vision board and going deeper! This podcast is all about growth and transformation! If any of us are going to have the transformation we want in our lives next year, it starts with setting clear goals, and a plan to accomplish them piece by piece! Tune in and tag me on Instagram when you go through this exercise of breaking down your vision and goals for next year!    01:45 How I do my year review, and set goals for the next year. 05:00 The main categories I set goals for the year. 08:15 What are the micro goals that will get you to your bigger goals? 10:30 Ways I spread out the small actions throughout the  year to move the needle. 13:00 Breaking down tasks I did as I was working on the goal of 30 under 30. 15:50 Are you enrolling the people in your life into the dreams you have? 17:45 How will you celebrate the next goal you check off your list?

New Year, New Me: How to Set Goals with STRATEGY for Your Best Year Yet!

Cocoon season is the messy middle in between who you were and who you’re meant to be. Let’s talk about 3 things I did to get out of my cocoon and live FULLY in butterfly season.   Resources + Links: Follow Aisha on Instagram | @aisha Follow AAM Consulting Firm on Instagram | @aamfirm Follow Whxte Atelier on Instagram | @whxteatelier   Shop Whxte - fine jewelry with feeling | memories made in gold https://whxte.com/   Text DEVO to 888-984-5013 to join my monthly devotional!   Watch the podcast on YouTube  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPufVLSYhRcS2L5O0RFuCA   Show Notes: Cocoon season is the work. It’s intentionally unlearning. It’s the messy middle between who you were and who you are meant to be. Butterfly season is as liberating as it sounds, but before we can get there cocoon season is a necessary part of the process. In this episode, I’m sharing what was happening in my life that led to me to shut down my business and go into a cocoon season before I fully even understood what that meant. Between my story and the 3 things I share with you, my hope is that you’re able to navigate your own cocoon seasons with intention so they don’t have to be as long of a process, and you can get to that beautiful butterfly season on the other side.   01:00 Success shouldn’t feel this hard, or turn me into a shell of myself. 03:00 The prayer that changed it all. 04:15 “Oh babe, your throat chakra is blocked.” 07:00 Making the decision to burn it all to the ground. 08:30 How I went through the process of detaching from what I used to label as success. 10:15 The first thing I did to get out of my cocoon and into butterfly season. 14:00 What are you doing to clear up your mental space? 16:40 How to gain clarity around your core values and vision. 19:30 My routine I’ve created around my life mission and vision.

How I Got Out of My Cocoon Season and Into My Butterfly Season

In Butterfly Season we talk about past experiences that lead you to your next season. The greatest season yet. And on the way to finding your wings, you’ll encounter waiting and learn patience. You’ll experience struggle and master flow. You’ll confront resistance and find peace. When you're NOTHING you can become ANYTHING. Together, we'll uncover the lessons in the hard things, give you the tools to get out of cocoon season and find the beauty in chaos--allowing you to live fully in your butterfly season. Your old self is finding her new self. Earn your wings and fly.

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