It's no secret that stretching our comfort zone to include more situations is a good idea. But it's called a comfort zone for a reason isnt it? It's comfortable there.So if life is comfortable and the alternative is uncomfortable then we're not going to have a great deal of motivation to make a change.But do we even need to? And if so, how?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Comfort Zones

Understanding a little bit about the effects of different parenting styles can really help us understand ourselves better. As well as help us to understand others.Let's have a peek into some of the basics shall we?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Parenting. Helicopters vs Bulldozers

People sometimes make the mistake of thinking that accepting reality and moving on from the past makes them weak or naive in some way. So they hold onto their pain.It takes a lot of strength to be the bigger person and say "You know what, the only one this is hurting is me, I'm moving on from that." But it doesn't mean you have to forgive and forget. Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Acceptance

Mixing negative beliefs about self with the idea that we can mind read is not a good idea. It can easily lead us down the path of feeling like an imposter at the first hint of any success.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Judgement Fear

Having free will is generally thought of as a good thing but it also comes with responsibility.That's why decisions cause anxiety, whether it's about the little things or the big things.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Difficult Decisions

Freud had some weird ideas back in the day. But this one really has stood the test of time.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

The 3 Parts of Your Mind

Most people live their life based around making other people happy to some degree. It's just how far we take it that determines whether or not it becomes a problem.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

People Pleasing

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and its counterpart Complex PTSD, are life-altering conditions.And although the symptoms may often resemble Anxiety and Depression, they need to be worked on in slightly different ways.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

PTSD

Prompted by a few emails over the years. Today is all about dealing with having an insecure attachment style and how to best cope in a relationship despite it. 36 questions that lead to love.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Insecure Attachment

Today is all about biases.In particular the in-group and out-group bias that drives our emotions way more than it should in the modern world.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

You Can't Always Trust Your Gut

It's often said that there are 3 types of perfectionism. Self-Oriented Perfectionism, Other-Oriented Perfectionism and Socially Prescribed Perfectionism. Let's take a peek into them shall we?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Perfectionism

I have a couple of catchphrases, or if you ask my wife I repeat myself a lot and can be boring and predictable, either way you'll often hear me say one particular phrase."The brain can't separate fact from fiction."If you've got this far through my Podcast series and not heard me say that then I must boring after all because you clearly fell asleep, because I say it a lot. And for good reason.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Empathy

Gratitude, even about the simpler things in life, helps to dilute down the frustrations about the annoying things. But it's not always easy to find reasons to be grateful is it?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

What COULD You Be Grateful For?

Seeing as it's Spring, not that you'd know it *shakes fist at the clouds* a time for having a good old clear out.I thought I'd revisit an old topic and talk about the psychology of stuff this week.In particular the way our brain can get very confused.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Hoarding

Someone asked me recently what the difference is between meditation, mindfulness and hypnosis. So I thought I'd go into it a little today and encourage you to take some mindful moments to train your brain.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Mindful Moments

Are we ALL entitled to an opinion?Am I really worth L'Oreal's products?All these questions and more on this weeks exciting instalment!Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Dealing With Entitled People

An increase in distress around the anniversary of a traumatic event is often called an anniversary reaction. It can range from feeling mildly upset for a day or two to more extreme reactions where someone experiences significant psychiatric or even medical symptoms.The good news is that we know when it's coming!Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Anniversary Reactions

When the oceans are filling with plastic, the cost of living is high and everyone seems to hate each other it's not easy to be the optimist and promote happiness.So what can we do?https://www.positive.newshttps://www.dailygood.org/https://www.good.is/https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/https://happynews.com/https://www.huffpost.com/impact/topic/good-newsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Happiness In A Depressing World

"Comparison is the thief of joy" said Theodore Roosevelt over a hundred years ago.He knew it then and we all still know it now. But do we actually remember that when the time comes?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Comparison

The dictionary defines "to forgive" as this: Verb. To stop feeling angry or resentful towards someone for an offence, flaw, or mistake. But language evolves. And maybe, to you, forgive and forget doesn't mean letting go of something so as to feel better. It means forgive the abuser and forget the victim. And it shouldn't. Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/  Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

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